LTF Weekly Newsletter – June 7th, 2009
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Peeling Away False Identities
“Feelings are the language of the soul”- Conversations with God
I changed the way I coach people this year after starting to do a lot of face-to-face coaching with people in shorter sessions. It helped me to become a better coach because rather than having 20 or 30 sessions to peel away the emotional layers, I had to learn how to help someone make a small leap in just one or two sessions.
This also caused me to consider how to more effectively help someone in that kind of timeframe. I prayed about this and one day in a session, my guides gave me a new way to do this and it has helped me to see my own life differently as well.
I learned many years ago that our human identity is comprised of many roles or sub-identities. So for example, we have identities for being a son or a daughter, a husband, wife or partner, a parent, etc. We also have identities for how we move about in our world. We have an identity for driving the car, working in the yard, cleaning the house, an identity as a sexual being, etc. Within each of these identities are further subdivisions. So for example, we may have an identity as a son, but play out that role differently with our father than we do our mother or a stepparent.
So consider each of these identities like an onion. Each layer represents a belief that is anchored in place by an emotion. When we came into this world, we took on many other people’s ideas about some of these areas and through the filter of our personality (which was affected by our astrological, birth order, etc), we unconsciously developed other aspects of the identity.
We have had millions of experiences in our lifetimes, but it is only the experiences in which we felt a strong enough positive or negative charge that started the formation of a belief. Once we had that experience our mind automatically started creating an identity around our idea of that while layering more and more emotions around it until we “knew” who we were in that role. For some areas, we may have one or two layers that separate us from our ideal situation and in others, we may have dozens.
All of this happened on an unconscious level and if we are to create what we want to experience in this life (which we certainly have the power to do as unlimited spiritual beings), then one way to do this is to consciously choose to change our identity for that part of our life.
So for example, I may be very comfortable with some of my family relationships and not as comfortable in others. Even if I am somewhat satisfied in some, my soul demands that I grow and if I try simply to maintain where I am in an identity, I will eventually feel dissatisfied because I am not growing in that role. My feelings tell me when it’s time to grow in an area.
My soul does not demand that I do it all at once. After all, that’s what my whole journey is about…learning over time to practice being and expressing unconditional Love with myself and others. And it may take many lifetimes to do that or I may accomplish it in this lifetime. The latter is my personal target.
I know now how to feel and release my negative feelings that cause me to have the same experiences again and again in any given identity. I also know how to practice new thoughts and feelings that help me to develop a new way of living out that identity.
I can much more easily change me, my beliefs and how I feel…than to try to change the world to operate in ways that make me feel good.
I have found that by doing so, the Law of Attraction that is always working starts to work for me and automatically reflect my new identities.
If you’re interested in learning how to do this, let us know. We can provide you a tool and teach you how to use it for any situation or identity in your life.
Namaste
Jeff
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
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