LTF Weekly Newsletter – May 3rd, 2009
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Letting Go of Need
“Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life.” -Christiane Northrup
What is it that you want to create in your life? How often do you think about not having it? How does not having it impact your life?
Whenever we create a desire to create something, we do so out of a lack of it in our lives. It is normal for us to focus on the lack of it in our lives and yet most of us never move beyond that point of creation.
If we want to create a loving relationship with our spouse, or a family member or a friend…our minds tends to focus on what we are experiencing that we do not want. If we have never received what we desire, we may quite naturally feel a need for it within us. When we feel a need for it, we tend to do and say things that drives the very people that we want closer away from us. If we are in denial that we are creating our lives, then we tend to blame others for not responding the way we prefer.
In psychological terms, this is called projectional transference. We are projecting our unmet emotional dependency needs out onto others. If we are to attract what we desire, we must learn to meet those needs from within us.
So for example, if we desire acceptance from others…we must practice accepting ourselves…and let go of whatever images, beliefs and feelings we have attached to rejection. If we desire intimacy, we must learn to be intimate with ourselves and heal any ideas, images or beliefs about our sexual beingness. If we desire freedom, we must let go of the restrictions that have been repeatedly programmed into our minds, while embracing the feeling of freedom within us.
For whatever we desire, we are either attracting it to us or repelling it from us with our thoughts and images that we have stored in our mind. Much of what we have…we learned from someone else. Very little of it do we create on our own until we start to learn to do it consciously.
For everything that you want to create in your life, find something similar that you can appreciate. If you do not have the relationship you desire with your spouse, find things about him/her that you DO appreciate and focus on that. Feel appreciative for the relationships you have that are working. It is the feeling of appreciation that draws what you want to you. It is not necessary to focus specifically on what it is that you want…mainly because when we do that it is so difficult to focus on the feelings of having what we want while living in the present experience of what we do not want. Instead shift your focus away from what isn’t working and focus on the things that are.
The more you vibrate the energy of appreciation out into the world, the more things you will notice to appreciate. When those things happen, allow yourself to just feel appreciation for them. Notice that the mind is suspicious sometimes and wants to doubt what is happening, looks for strings, is worried about when it will stop. Notice the mind when it does this and just turn away from these thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Feel appreciation for what IS happening and you will attract more of that.
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
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