Dis-Creation
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Greetings from Learning To Flow!
Do you ever feel like you’re at the mercy of life? Does it ever seem like you continue to encounter the same types of unpleasant situations in your life?
Perhaps you find yourself in the same kinds of unfulfilling relationships or that no matter how many times you change jobs, you wind up working with difficult managers or co-workers.
Quite often we feel like if we could just find the right person or the right job, we would feel happy or at peace.
When we are ready to take responsibility for our lives though, we remember that we are creating ALL of it. While we may not be consciously seeking out these kinds of situations, we are certainly unconsciously attracting it. The “why” of that is another discussion entirely and we will get to that in a few weeks.
But it is a huge step forward in the growth of a soul when we are finally ready to take responsibility for our creation and seek to understand how to change it. We covered one part of this last week when I explained how to create what you want.
This week, I will explain how to stop creating what you don’t want. This is called, “Dis-creation.”
You will find that only focusing on creation will only take you so far. You will arrive at a point that if you do not understand how to dis-create…you will just keep running into the same walls.
To master creation and dis-creation requires significant practice. But if you do not master it, then you will remain at the mercy of what seems like “the winds of fate” and in case you haven’t noticed, those winds are starting to pick up considerably.
If this is your first introduction to dis-creation, then get ready for your spiritual growth to start moving forward in leaps and bounds!
Namaste
Jeff Scholl
Quote of the Week:
“If you bring forth what is within you, it will heal you. And if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.” – St. Thomas
Peeling Away our Emotional Layers
As children, we reacted to our environments with intense feelings. If we were not taught otherwise, we creating stories around what we were seeing reflected back to us. And the more we replayed those stories in our minds, the more we were unknowingly programming our own minds.
If we had abusive parents, we quite naturally developed beliefs like, “I’m not safe” or “I don’t deserve love” or “I can’t have what I want.”
If we had an older sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “no one listens to me” or “I’m not important.”
If we were the oldest sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “I’m responsible for everyone else” or “What I want doesn’t matter” or “I have to be the responsible one” or a myriad of other beliefs.
One way I started detaching myself from these beliefs was to stop identifying myself with them. I started identifying myself as who am what I truly am…a spiritual being…a being of energy. I started looking at my body as not who I was…but as my vehicle for what I am creating in this lifetime.
Once I could create that distinction clearly enough, then I came across information that reminded me that I came into this body…into my family…into the lives of the people who have touched me throughout my life..to become the conscious creator of my life.
But if I had come in as a clean slate, then I could not become that conscious creator because I would never have known anything different. So as I learned in “Conversations with God” if I had never learned “hot,” how could I know “cold?”
Similarly, if I had never been sick, how could I appreciate being well? How could I create healing in myself and others if I knew only vital health?
So into this life, I brought an agenda…a very full agenda…meaning I brought a lot of negative energies in with me. When I started understanding my life from that perspective, I realized that all of those people who I thought had been mean, hateful, rude and abusive to me…were also simply playing out their roles. They were perfectly responding to the set of energies I brought in…and I was responding to their as well.
And since I now knew that I could feel those energies through my feelings, then I could choose to LET THEM GO. Now this wasn’t always easy and when I first started out, I needed a coach to help me learn how to face those energies. I needed someone else to create a safe space for me to do it and to guide me through how to delve down into that energy and let it go. I had to learn to feel that energy and how to maturely express it to others.
Denying it was there only resulted in situations being attracted to me getting more and more intense…until I finally surrendered to just facing them and letting them go.
Dis-creation is the act of facing the feelings you have carried with you all of your lives and letting them go.
Anyone can learn how to do this but I will warn you that it takes practice to be able to face fear and pain. And it will also take the guidance of someone who has been through this to face your deepest fears.
Also realize that these are the fears and pain you don’t even realize are there until you start digging down into them. My coach proved to me in an hour how much pain I carried. He didn’t tell me I was carrying it. He just led me through some questions and through the questions he asked…I could feel it.
After going through this myself and coaching others for the past five years, I can safely say that everyone I know has these energies buried within them. Facing them is one of the most difficult phases on the spiritual journey towards mastery.
But once you experience the value of letting this energy go and choosing to practice a new, more loving energy in its place, your perceptions of what is possible for you in this life will shaft dramatically.
Namaste
Jeff
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
Spiritual Exercise of the Week
Think of an area that was painful to you when it happened. It could be something like divorce or a friendship ending. It can be the loss of a job or encountering a bully when you were in school.
Take a few moments and replay that experience in your mind. Do you still feel the feelings you experienced when it happened? If so, that energy is still within you and it is still attracting experiences that match it into your life so that you can heal it.
This is the purpose of attracting these situations in your life…to allow you to have an opportunity to heal and let go of the energy within you.
So many times, people tell me, “Oh I already worked through that. I’m done with it.” But when I ask them how it feels, they still feel it intensely. This is the difference between healing something and just denying that it’s there.
So close your eyes and replay the scene. Notice what you are feeling. Give yourself permission to feel angry, sad, worried, fearful, embarrassed, hurt, etc.
Notice where you feel this energy within you.
Now envision this energy as a small child and ask her/him why she is feeling what she is feeling. Allow him/her to vent their feelings to you and validate whatever they are telling you.
Explain to them that what they are feeling is normal….that anyone would feel that way. Explain to them that it’s natural that they feel pain or tightness in their chest…and explain that it’s necessary to feel it so they can let it go.
Then breathe into that area…allow yourself to feel it as intensely as you can while forcefully blowing that energy out.
Take at least 7 breaths in and blow it out, then blow out the next three breaths using the sound of relief…sighing out those breaths with “Ahhhhhh.”
Most people feel significantly better after this exercise. Some people only feel a little better, but again this comes with practice.
Realize that your ego will only allow you to go as deep as it feels safe and if you truly want to dive down deep, you’re going to need a “diving instructor.”
Once you learn how to go deep with guidance, you’ll feel safe enough to get into some of those feelings when they happen. When you get to that point, you are no longer at the mercy of the world. You realize at this point, as I did, that the FEAR isn’t “out there.” It’s “in here” and since it is, I can face it and let it go.
And the more I let it go, the less I am attracting similarly charged experiences into my life.
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
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