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Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 3
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Self Realization, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Relationships
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
This week, we will explore the all important Spiritual Truth # 3 of being able to understand that our enemies are our teachers.
It takes a high degree of consciousness to separate our perceptions from what is really happening, so this is something that must be practiced.
But the more you intellectually understand what your “enemies” represent in your life, the faster you can heal and start creating what you DO want to experience.
Namaste
Jeff
Quote of the Week
“Remember, your “so called” enemies will keep reappearing in your life until you learn the lesson that they have come to teach you” – Hu Dalconzo “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self”
You have no enemies…
Truth Three:
You Have No Enemies…just Lessons.
This can be a difficult lesson to understand because we are born into this world tied to our ego mind which is filled with the karmic energies we came to work on in this lifetime.
Our ego tells us that if we are to feel better, we need to change what someone else is doing, saying or not doing or saying. We have been programmed all of our lives to believe that we change our lives by convincing someone else to change so that we feel better. But this is a denial of who and what we are. It is also only a short term fix.
So for example, if I dislike my joy and I change jobs hoping that my new job, new manager or new co-workers will change how I feel, I am only trading one situation for another. The new place may feel better for a little while as my optimism may carry me for awhile, but if I have not dealt with the anger that surfaced at my old job, or the fear and anxiety that surfaced again and again, I am sure to experience it again.
Others are simply the mirror to our own pain. It is our perceptions of them that cause our “problems.” Our perceptions are created by the karmic energies we brought into this life to work out and are anchored in this life by the life experiences we had in childhood.
Our parents can often seem like the greatest enemies we have.
But in order to heal this, we must take a step back and recognize who we really are. We are NOT the sons, daughters, wives, husbands, sisters, brothers, friends, engineers, teachers, etc. These are the roles we chose to play in this lifetime. They are the backdrop to the grand play we are in. They provide the opportunity for us to experience the drama of life.
We ARE Divine Vibrational Beings. Whatever we focus our attention (vibration) upon grows in strength and power. So when we focus upon something we do not like, that situation grows and we experience more of that.
And we came into this life with a karmic agenda. Many of us brought all of our past life karma into this life. We chose VERY difficult paths of abuse, abandonment, shame and feelings of inadequacy so that we could remember who and what we truly are and transcend ALL of it.
Our parents, caretakers, teachers, spouses and friends agreed to soul contracts with us so that we and THEY could experience the dramas of life in order to realize experientially who and what we truly are. Some of us are awakening to who and what we are faster than others. This can be confusing for us because others are still enmeshed in their dramas.
So when we look out at our world, the way we start to differentiate between our drama and their drama is by how WE feel. If we feel bad in any way, then the responsibility is ours to heal it. If someone else is feeling it, it’s their responsibility to heal it.
Only you can think YOUR thoughts, feel YOUR feelings, heal your SELF, choose to let it go, choose to visualize what you do want, etc. And only THEY can do that for themselves as well.
When you start to see your “enemies” as your mirror to what you most need to heal…you can silently bless them for keeping their soul contract and let them go.
Then you can turn your attention inward to forgive yourself and others and finally release your emotional karmic burdens.
You can then understand what the drama was really about…your healing.
Practice of the Week
Think of someone you feel angry, frustrated with or perhaps even hurt by.
Does the situation you feel with them seem to happen to you again and again?
If so, understand that this is simply the Law of Attraction in action. It is working 24/7 in response to the energies YOU carry.
So think of this person again and tell them in your mind how you feel…then forgive them.
Forgive them because you don’t want to carry these feelings any longer. Be willing to release everything you feel is the “evidence” of WHY you are justified to feel as you do.
Remember that the Course in Miracles says, “Do you want to be right…or do you want to be happy?”
As long as you want or feel the NEED to be right, you cannot heal. You have to be willing to completely let of of all of it.
For understand that while in this life, you may have been the victim…in other lives you were the offender…maybe even in this life…maybe even something you did unconsciously that hurt someone else.
What you are feeling is simply your own karmic energy coming back to you.
So forgive yourself first and then the other person. The other person is simply your mirror showing you what you have been at some point, allowing you to feel both sides of the energetic equation.
Forgive yourself for it was all part of the growth experience, to KNOW yourself as the Divine being you are.
You were simply learning what power was, what love was, what peace was and how to manifest all of it.
Forgive yourself first…then others.
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2010. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and intact, full credit is given to the author(s), and that it is distributed freely.
www.learningtoflow.com
Dis-Creation
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Inner Child Work
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
Do you ever feel like you’re at the mercy of life? Does it ever seem like you continue to encounter the same types of unpleasant situations in your life?
Perhaps you find yourself in the same kinds of unfulfilling relationships or that no matter how many times you change jobs, you wind up working with difficult managers or co-workers.
Quite often we feel like if we could just find the right person or the right job, we would feel happy or at peace.
When we are ready to take responsibility for our lives though, we remember that we are creating ALL of it. While we may not be consciously seeking out these kinds of situations, we are certainly unconsciously attracting it. The “why” of that is another discussion entirely and we will get to that in a few weeks.
But it is a huge step forward in the growth of a soul when we are finally ready to take responsibility for our creation and seek to understand how to change it. We covered one part of this last week when I explained how to create what you want.
This week, I will explain how to stop creating what you don’t want. This is called, “Dis-creation.”
You will find that only focusing on creation will only take you so far. You will arrive at a point that if you do not understand how to dis-create…you will just keep running into the same walls.
To master creation and dis-creation requires significant practice. But if you do not master it, then you will remain at the mercy of what seems like “the winds of fate” and in case you haven’t noticed, those winds are starting to pick up considerably.
If this is your first introduction to dis-creation, then get ready for your spiritual growth to start moving forward in leaps and bounds!
Namaste
Jeff Scholl
Quote of the Week:
“If you bring forth what is within you, it will heal you. And if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.” – St. Thomas
Peeling Away our Emotional Layers
As children, we reacted to our environments with intense feelings. If we were not taught otherwise, we creating stories around what we were seeing reflected back to us. And the more we replayed those stories in our minds, the more we were unknowingly programming our own minds.
If we had abusive parents, we quite naturally developed beliefs like, “I’m not safe” or “I don’t deserve love” or “I can’t have what I want.”
If we had an older sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “no one listens to me” or “I’m not important.”
If we were the oldest sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “I’m responsible for everyone else” or “What I want doesn’t matter” or “I have to be the responsible one” or a myriad of other beliefs.
One way I started detaching myself from these beliefs was to stop identifying myself with them. I started identifying myself as who am what I truly am…a spiritual being…a being of energy. I started looking at my body as not who I was…but as my vehicle for what I am creating in this lifetime.
Once I could create that distinction clearly enough, then I came across information that reminded me that I came into this body…into my family…into the lives of the people who have touched me throughout my life..to become the conscious creator of my life.
But if I had come in as a clean slate, then I could not become that conscious creator because I would never have known anything different. So as I learned in “Conversations with God” if I had never learned “hot,” how could I know “cold?”
Similarly, if I had never been sick, how could I appreciate being well? How could I create healing in myself and others if I knew only vital health?
So into this life, I brought an agenda…a very full agenda…meaning I brought a lot of negative energies in with me. When I started understanding my life from that perspective, I realized that all of those people who I thought had been mean, hateful, rude and abusive to me…were also simply playing out their roles. They were perfectly responding to the set of energies I brought in…and I was responding to their as well.
And since I now knew that I could feel those energies through my feelings, then I could choose to LET THEM GO. Now this wasn’t always easy and when I first started out, I needed a coach to help me learn how to face those energies. I needed someone else to create a safe space for me to do it and to guide me through how to delve down into that energy and let it go. I had to learn to feel that energy and how to maturely express it to others.
Denying it was there only resulted in situations being attracted to me getting more and more intense…until I finally surrendered to just facing them and letting them go.
Dis-creation is the act of facing the feelings you have carried with you all of your lives and letting them go.
Anyone can learn how to do this but I will warn you that it takes practice to be able to face fear and pain. And it will also take the guidance of someone who has been through this to face your deepest fears.
Also realize that these are the fears and pain you don’t even realize are there until you start digging down into them. My coach proved to me in an hour how much pain I carried. He didn’t tell me I was carrying it. He just led me through some questions and through the questions he asked…I could feel it.
After going through this myself and coaching others for the past five years, I can safely say that everyone I know has these energies buried within them. Facing them is one of the most difficult phases on the spiritual journey towards mastery.
But once you experience the value of letting this energy go and choosing to practice a new, more loving energy in its place, your perceptions of what is possible for you in this life will shaft dramatically.
Namaste
Jeff
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
Spiritual Exercise of the Week
Think of an area that was painful to you when it happened. It could be something like divorce or a friendship ending. It can be the loss of a job or encountering a bully when you were in school.
Take a few moments and replay that experience in your mind. Do you still feel the feelings you experienced when it happened? If so, that energy is still within you and it is still attracting experiences that match it into your life so that you can heal it.
This is the purpose of attracting these situations in your life…to allow you to have an opportunity to heal and let go of the energy within you.
So many times, people tell me, “Oh I already worked through that. I’m done with it.” But when I ask them how it feels, they still feel it intensely. This is the difference between healing something and just denying that it’s there.
So close your eyes and replay the scene. Notice what you are feeling. Give yourself permission to feel angry, sad, worried, fearful, embarrassed, hurt, etc.
Notice where you feel this energy within you.
Now envision this energy as a small child and ask her/him why she is feeling what she is feeling. Allow him/her to vent their feelings to you and validate whatever they are telling you.
Explain to them that what they are feeling is normal….that anyone would feel that way. Explain to them that it’s natural that they feel pain or tightness in their chest…and explain that it’s necessary to feel it so they can let it go.
Then breathe into that area…allow yourself to feel it as intensely as you can while forcefully blowing that energy out.
Take at least 7 breaths in and blow it out, then blow out the next three breaths using the sound of relief…sighing out those breaths with “Ahhhhhh.”
Most people feel significantly better after this exercise. Some people only feel a little better, but again this comes with practice.
Realize that your ego will only allow you to go as deep as it feels safe and if you truly want to dive down deep, you’re going to need a “diving instructor.”
Once you learn how to go deep with guidance, you’ll feel safe enough to get into some of those feelings when they happen. When you get to that point, you are no longer at the mercy of the world. You realize at this point, as I did, that the FEAR isn’t “out there.” It’s “in here” and since it is, I can face it and let it go.
And the more I let it go, the less I am attracting similarly charged experiences into my life.
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
LTF Weekly Newsletter – August 15th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Evolution, Uncategorized
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
This week, we will explore an issue that is proving to be highly volatile in our country right now…healthcare and we will use this example for how to express our Divine spirituality in a way that makes us feel good.
What many of us have yet to truly face is that there may be solutions we have not yet considered. The Universe / God / Our Higher Self cannot give us these solutions if we have closed our hearts through fear and anger.
It is not our faults that this fear and anger is surfacing. It is necessary that it happen, but the vast majority of the population does not understand why it’s happening and how allowing it to do so is both healing and cathartic.
If we are to heal individually and collectively, we must face our inner fears and pain. If we are to cxreate our heaven on earth, we must let go of the very pain that blocks us from being able to connect to the Source of All That Is.
Once we do so, solutions to these “problems” flow through us and out into our world. When we heal individually, we are also healing our world and almost as if by osmosis…many people awaken at once to solutions that then seem almost obvious, but lay hidden now.
So in exploring this topic this week, I encourage you to allow your fears and anger to surface. Breathe into it. Allow yourself to truly feel it and let it go!
It’s time to come together as One and create the world we want to live in.
Quote of the Week:
“Your politics is your spirituality…expressed.” -Conversations with God – Neale Donald Walsch
This week’s article:
Your Spirituality…Expressed!
So in continuing our discussion on the application of spiritual knowledge, let’s look at some areas in which we can apply this knowledge. Use the information in this article and the exercise to determine in advance what you will create based on the energy you are sending out. We no longer have to wait until we’ve created something and see it reflected back to us to get an idea as to what will show up.
So let’s look at the health care situation. Ask yourself how you feel about the healthcare you have for you and your family. When you ask that question, how do you feel?
Now notice I am not asking, “What do you think about it?” We can all recall experiences and talk a lot about why we feel what we feel. But for right now, I just want you to focus on what you feel. When you think about healthcare for you, your family…now and in the future, what emotion comes up for you…anger, fear, worry, frustration, disappointment…or peace, security and safety?
This is the starting point. In order to create anything, you have to know how you feel right now. Because how you feel right now on any topic is the energy you are sending out. And since the Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like,” as long as we collectively continue to send out fear, worry and anger…we will continue to attract the same situations into our lives over and over again.
So note how you feel and write that down in your journal. Write it out so that it triggers a feeling for you. So it will not be effective to simply write, “I feel afraid.”
What will bring up those feelings is to write something like, “When I think of my current healthcare, I feel frustrated.” “When I feel frustrated, I feel that feeling in my chest.” “It feels like my chest tightens and is slightly painful.”
Now that kind of statement clearly identifies what you feel and focuses you on the feeling instead of on the trigger for the feeling. The trigger is healthcare and it is only a reflection of our individual and collective consciousness on this issue.
Whether the topic is healthcare, our relationships, our careers, if we are not aware that we are creating our reality, we perpetuate our current reality by blaming others. So in relationships if we have a recurring situation, we tend to think that the other person needs to change and if they change their behavior, then we will feel better. But all we are doing when we communicate that to the other person is trying to control and manipulate them to make us feel better.
If we are going to create a situation that will feel good, we have to feel good first, then create an image in our mind that matches that…and then focus on how wonderful that would feel. We use the Law of Attraction to practice that good feeling for a minimum of 17 seconds and up to 68 seconds at a time. If you set a timer, you would be surprised at how short of a time 68 seconds actually is to simply hold a vibration and an image about something in your mind.
But what we typically do is the opposite. We continue to play the undesired situation over and over in our mind which ensures that we relive that feeling again and again…which our mind tells us provides the justification for us to feel what we are feeling. And all of this is a lie. All of it is a denial.
As long as we blame the other person, we are denying our power and actually giving our power away to the other person. We are essentially saying to them, “I surrender my power to you and allow you to determine if I feel good or bad.”
This is a denial of who you are as a Divine Spiritual Being.
It is also unrealistic to expect that anyone…anyone else is going to know how YOU feel and act in ways that make YOU feel good all of the time. YOU are the only one who knows how YOU feel, so the responsibility to create something different has to be YOURS.
If we are to create what we desire in our relationships, in our careers or in our healthcare system, we must take responsibility for what we are creating.
One of the first things I teach my clients is that they can no longer blame anyone else for what is happening in their lives. Because if I allow them to do that, I am also denying who and what they are…and I will not do that. Many of my clients would tell you that how I coach could be more accurately called “a kick in the ass” than “spiritual life coaching.” 
I do not allow my clients to continue to b.s. themselves about what is happening in their lives and why. What is happening is because of the energy they are sending out…mostly unconsciously.
What my clients are experiencing, what you are experiencing in your personal lives and what we collectively are experiencing in our world and politics is not our fault. Taking responsibility for creating change does not mean that we have to find someone to blame. Actually what we must do to create change is find someone to forgive. We have to forgive others for creating out of a place of fear…and we can’t just throw stones at them since we are also creating fear from our own glass houses. All of us are creating some aspect of fear in our daily lives…unless we have awakened to the point where we are only creating experiences of love, peace and happiness…unless we are spiritual masters. .
I’m not there yet and I have yet to encounter someone who is. All of us are headed in that direction though and are at various levels of understanding and vibrational growth on that journey. Make no mistake though. ALL of us are on the journey to mastery. All of us are capable of getting there and many of us will get there in THIS LIFETIME. We will not get there individually as much as we will get there together. It is not a matter of who is destined to be there. We are all destined to be there. As Spiritual Beings, we were given the tools and free will to create what we want. We can choose to create heaven or hell on this earth. I know that I have created enough hell on this earth for myself and so now I am focused on creating heaven on earth.
If you want to start creating your heaven on earth, use the exercise this week to move in that direction. Use all of the spiritual knowledge you get from this and other sources. Often we tell ourselves that we don’t know enough to create what we want. Yet I’ve studied spiritual topics for most of my adult life and after all of this knowledge I’ve accumulated, the answer to all of my questions is Divinely simple.
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise of the Week
I am using the healthcare issue this week because it is something that is out there and almost everyone has an opinion on it. Since my goal with these messages is to get people to start applying their spiritual knowledge, this seemed to be as good of a topic as any.
Feel where you are right now in relation to the topic of healthcare. Is what you feel closer to Love…or Fear?
Realize that you may not be capable of creating an image that you can believe will happen that will reflect “Joy” or “perfection.” Perfection is an illusion. There is no such thing and there can be no such thing. Realize that we can create in one moment what we think is “perfect” and we will only be able to enjoy that feeling for just a short time before we will want more of that. So since we now want more, the situation we created wasn’t really “perfect” was it?
What we created was an improvement…not perfection.
So if we can accept that our intention is simply to create an improvement…not perfection, then we can more easily feel for what would be an improvement from what we feel now. So if we feel pessimistic right now, an improvement would be for us to feel optimistic.
If we feel frustrated, an improvement would be for us to feel relieved. Remember, to create what we want…we create the feeling first and then practice that feeling to have it reflected back to us in our reality.
What many of us try to do is control and manipulate others through fear or guilt to create what we want. This does not and will never create what we desire. So this means that if we are spending time blaming our government or insurance companies or doctors and communicating our frustrations to them, we cannot expect that the Universe will simply reflect back to us the opposite of what we are sending out.
So what would be an improved situation in your current healthcare situation? Obviously if you don’t have healthcare, to have it would be a relief to you. If you have it, but your premiums are so high that it has reduced the quality of living in other areas, having lower premiums would be a relief. If you have affordable premiums, but your deductible is so high that it’s cost prohibitive to use your insurance, then having a lower deductible to allow you to actually use your insurance would be a relief for you. If you are completely satisfied with your own healthcare, but feel pain when you see others who have none, then knowing others now have healthcare would be a relief to you.
From any perspective, we can all find a feeling of relief.
If we all simply focus and practice feeling relieved, we will be amazed at how this situation changes. We do not have to control and manipulate the outcome. We can surrender the outcome to God, to our Higher Self, to the Universe…to handle the details. As long as we focus on what we want that outcome to feel like, it must be reflected back to us.
This week, write out what that new situation looks like, sounds like and feels like. Then spend 68 seconds a day focusing on feeling relieved while imagining the situation(s) that are a reflection of this feeling.
Use this exercise for any situation that you want to change. If you find that you feel resistance when you try to visualize this, you may need assistance in clearing fears, pain or hurts before you can embrace a more joyful situation. If you need help, let us know. I can refer you to coaches and / or healers who can help you work through your roadblocks.
LTF Weekly Newsletter – March 13th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth, Vibrational Being
Greetings!
We are continuing our exploration of ourselves as vibrational beings this week.
Until we embrace and identify with ourselves as the unlimited beings that we are, we remain lost in the illusion of separateness…from each other and God.
To be able to live from this perspective, it MUST be an experiential knowing, not simply a conceptual understanding.
Otherwise we remain identified with ourselves as a body…or a mind with a body…instead of as a Spirit who has taken on a body and a mind to function on this plane of existence.
As long as we believe we are separate from others, then our perception tells us that the only way to improve the quality of our existence is some form of control or manipulation of others’ behavior.
When we live from the perception that we are all One, then we focus more on how we feel, why we feel the way that we do and ways to improve that. When we feel good and that feeling comes from within ourselves, our world reflects that back to us.
When we experience that for the very first time, we awaken to the possibility that Heaven is here…now.
We just have to choose it!
Namaste
Jeff Scholl
Learning to Flow
Spiritual Life Coaching
This Week’s Quote:
“If you bring forth what is within you, it will heal you. And if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.”
- St. Thomas
Letting Go
This week, I feel the best way to explain the benefits of letting go would be to share from my own personal experience.
My journey started in April 1990 when I woke up with a blood clot in my femoral vein. It was something that nearly killed me and reoccurred later that year. The medical experts just shrugged their shoulders after running me through every test they had.
In realizing I was going to have to heal this without traditional medicine, I made dietary changes, visited all kinds of alternative medicine doctors (naturopathic, chiropractic, etc) Yet, I still carried these within me for 14 years. I had to restrict my physical activity during this time since too much blood flowing through my leg would result in it stiffening up on me, causing significant pain.
Yet only six months into a process of letting go of the emotional baggage I had carried since childhood, these clots rose to the surface and healed on their own. I witnessed a miracle within myself and in doing so realized how powerful this healing can be. I gained new perceptions into my belief systems and realized how my repressed pain, shame, anger and frustration had affected every area of my life.
I held onto that pain for many years because I didn’t want to hurt my parents and saw no logical purpose for digging up any of this.
In learning to take the most important class of my life…Jeff-ology…I gained a new perspective on why my life had turned out the way it had, why I made certain choices, what kept me from having what I wanted and why I kept experiencing the same things over and over again.
It had nothing to do with wanting it enough, working harder or doing affirmations!
It had to do with MY PAIN, MY FEAR that I carried deep within my sub-conscious. And with each release, my perceptions changed and my vibration rose.
I didn’t have to hurt anyone to do this either. I could just work the process with my coach and let it go.
The realization that “I” HAD THE POWER TO CHANGE MY EXPERIENCE, instead of relying on someone else to change something so I could feel safe, loved or happy was empowering!
My new perceptions helped me to realize that everyone around me was as unconscious to their pain as I had been to my own. I could see it at my job, in my family relationships, on TV, in our government; everywhere!
It is only when I LET GO of my pain and fear…that I was able to rediscover my Love and Peace.
This is my hope for each of you and it is why I have dedicated my life to teaching this course to others.
© 2009. Jeffrey Scholl. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
We Must Learn to Grow Through Joy
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth
I read recently that we have a mass consciousness belief of having to grow through pain and struggle. I have really given that a lot of though in the past week since I read it and I can now see how that belief permeates not only our history, but also our lives.
On a personal level in growing up, my parents punished me for my “bad” behavior. Much of how I was raised centered more on what would happen if I did not behave as expected than it did for what would happen if I behaved well. More attention was put on punishments than rewards. So in growing up, I continued to learn mostly from my pain. I created pain in my life again and again through dis-ease, injury, divorce, job loss, lack of abundance, etc.
The focus on what is going wrong in our behavior is not just at the tribal family level, but also at every level of our society. If we look at what our media reports, they focus almost exclusively on what is NOT going well, what is NOT working, what they DON’T like and give almost no attention to all of the news out there of what IS working.
In business, most of corporations focus more on what is going wrong than what is going right. If they are a manufacturing company, their business metrics are set up to track things like, Cost of Poor Quality, First Time Failure Rate, Field Quality Failure Rate, Out of Box Failure Rate, Supplier Defect Rate, etc. Even if they are measuring for the positive such as, On Time Delivery or On Time Departures, there is a list of Issues, Actions and Owners targeted specifically for the problems.
From a historical perspective, humanity as a whole has grown from our most significant times of pain…wars, plagues, natural disasters, economic struggles, etc.
At what point though do we determine both individually and collectively that we no longer want to grow through pain and struggle? At what point do we decide that we want to work together to heal and grow through joy instead of pain?
On a personal level, that means we must learn to forgive ourselves and others. We must learn to love and accept ourselves for who we truly are right now in this moment. We must come to accept that most of the pain we are creating is at a level that we cannot see and heal on our own. If we could see it, we would have healed it already.
What we have to recognize is that our future is created by who we choose to be and what we decide to feel…right now, but it is also created by the enormous amount of energy buried both within our individual and collective sub-conscious. If we are going to change our world, we have to be willing to let all of that go. It serves no purpose other than to create more of that in our lives.
We have to be willing to forgive all those we feel have harmed us. We must be willing to put aside our differences and focus on what it is that we want to create. We must focus ONLY on what it is that we INTEND to create together and work together to create that.
Our power does not lie in our separateness and individuality. Our power lies in the unification of all of our talents and abilities. We all have a part to play in the healing and growth of this world. We must stop and ask ourselves what we want to create. If we want to create global peace, we will not create that through war. If we want to ensure that all have access to the resources they need to live, we must stop our power struggles over resources. We must be willing to take responsibility for all that we have created and be willing to forgive ourselves for it. We must be willing to take that next step forward in our growth by focusing on what would feel good if we could create it in our world.
What we do now is we look at the world and say, “Well, I would like to create peace, but since I see all of the things to fear in the world, I have to defend myself and I may even have to attack others so I can be safe.” This is not the path to peace. When we focus on creating peace, our actions will be inspired and we will find new actions to take. These actions will be something so obvious we will be stunned that we never thought of it or believed it would actually work.
Saying war will create peace is like saying rape can create love. It simply cannot be. The motivations for war are similar to the motivations for rape or any other violent crime. The motivations come from anger and fear…not love and compassion.
We must wake up from the violent dream we have been living. We must stop supporting any form of violence. The end does NOT justify the means.
The means justifies the end…which means when we come from a place of love and compassion, our actions will be guided by love and our results will be a reflection of love.
Our relationships can be a source of our greatest joy in life, rather than the source of our greatest sadness, pain, fear, embarrassment, shame and frustration. But we must learn to heal not only our pain, but the generations of pain that have been passed down. When we do so, we are able to see the world through a completely different perception. Our reality is created by our perceptions—and now we have to start changing our perceptions.
When you’re ready to start growing through joy, let me know.
Namaste
Jeff
© 2009. All rights reserved.
“Except ye become as little children…”
Posted by learning | Filed under Forgiveness
Jesus taught us that until we learn to see the world as little children, we cannot enter the kingdom of God. I gained some new insight on this quote that helped me learn how to apply this in my life differently than how I had understood it before.
This was one of those “Aha!” moments that I get in the shower occasionally and then wonder if I will ever remember once I find my way to my computer. Fortunately, I feel this coming back to me now.
So what I was shown was how often I look skeptically out at the world, how often I judge a new experience based on past experiences, how I shy away from new opportunities in relationships because of past hurts. I realized that for me “the kingdom of God” represents a life of peace, love and joy. I had learned many times before that our heaven is here and now…and so is our hell.
I understood in the flash of inspiration I received how I have limited my opportunities here in this life because I do not look at the world as a child does.
For a child, everything is new and fresh. Each experience has the opportunity for joy, fun and laughter. In watching parents “care” for their children, quite often I see a parent give a child a negative view of a situation instead of allowing the child to see it on his/her own and come to their own conclusion. The parent believes that by teaching their children, they are protecting them, but what they are doing most of the time is projecting their own negative beliefs out onto their children.
When we become as little children, we start seeing the world as they do. We forgive those who have hurt us. We look for the best in every experience. We dream. We know that innately at our core, we are creative. We laugh easily and we allow ourselves to cry when needed. Our emotions are out there for everyone to see. We hide nothing. We look people in the eye. We want to help. We do our best to make each moment, each experience fun no matter how the people around us are viewing the experience. We treat others as equals and we really don’t care what color they are or what religion their parents are. We just want to play with them. We want to teach them our games and we want to learn theirs.
When we learn to let go of our limitations and see the world as a child does, we start to see a world we simply could not see before. We understand that this world has been here all along and our perception of our world blinded us from being able to see it. We remember what we came to this world to do and we allow opportunities to come to us to do it. We see the world as a miracle, our lives as miracles and everyone in it as a miracle in disguise.
We understand that we are Love and that Love flows easily and effortlessly through us if we will just relax and allow that to happen. We start to feel how tightly we have been holding on and start to wonder why. We seek out help when we don’t know which way to go instead of beating ourselves up for not knowing…or being afraid to ask.
We realize our own gifts, appreciate them and then start to appreciate others gifts more openly. We want for others what we want for ourselves, sometimes even more.
We start to live from a place of peace and joy…little by little and the more happiness we find in the lives we are already living, the more we want to share it with the world.
Learn to see the world as a child does…and find the magic in the world again.
Namaste
Jeff
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Jeffrey L. Scholl
Forgiveness: A Gift to Yourself
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Forgiveness, Law of Attraction
From the time we are born, our minds are looking out at the world and deciding who and what we are in relation to the people with whom we interact. Intuitively, we know how to hold onto things and let go of them when they no longer serve us. But when it comes to our emotions, we forget how natural this is for us, because few of our caretakers knew how to model this for us.
And so we are not learning how to forgive. We are remembering how to do it. We are remembering why it is essential to a joyful life experience.
Growing up in a religious, conservative family…I learned a lot about judgment. I was taught from a very early age, that even God was judgmental. I watched as my caretakers modeled judgment for me…both for others and themselves. And I learned how to judge others and myself.
I learned that it was important to forgive and that I was supposed to do it, but no one told me why. I know now that they couldn’t tell me because they didn’t know. They could only give me what they had.
What they had was religious training and rigid belief systems surrounding that. But what they did not have was the experiential emotional knowledge for how to really apply what they knew.
I’ve learned though that Forgiveness is not something I do for the other person and that I ask them to do for me. Forgiveness is something I do for myself.
I am the only one who can feel my feelings and so I am the only one who suffers from holding onto anger, disappointments, frustration, shame and hurt.
I have learned through my own life experiences that because I bottled all of this up inside of me instead of letting it go, that these energies sought to express themselves by attacking my body. They were seeking a release.
The Law of Attraction says, “like attracts like.” Because I held onto anger and pain, I kept attracting these types of situations to me over and over.
Sometimes we need to forgive someone else…to release the pain we carry within us that our minds connect to that person. Sometimes we need to forgive ourselves and let go of the embarrassment and shame of our own less than perfect actions.
Our powerful imagination holds the key to forgiveness. Since scientists have proven that our mind does not know the difference between something real and imagined, it is not even necessary to tell someone you are forgiving them. If you feel you need an apology from someone in order to forgive them, you have the power to imagine that. If you feel you owe someone else an apology, you will feel better if you imagine that as well. You also have the power to imagine them forgiving you. You have the power to imagine whatever you need to experience in order to let go of your pain.
Take a deep breath, relax and allow yourself to really feel as much emotion as you can that you have attached to this situation. Feel wherever you feel it in your body. Notice if that area of your body feels tight, tense or some other physical sensation and really allow yourself to just feel it. For just a few moments, don’t think about why it is there. Just FEEL it.
Then breathe into it and release it with a loud sigh of relief. Exhale with a sound of “Ahhhh!”
The practice of forgiveness releases chunks of trapped emotional energy. And as you release it, you are then able to replace the pain with love, the anger with compassion and the shame with understanding…both for yourself and others.
Give yourself the gift of forgiveness today. You deserve it!
Namaste
Jeffrey L. Scholl
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