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Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 4

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!

One of the most frustrating aspects of our spiritual growth is that it takes more than once or twice to work through an issue. The reason is because there are “layers” to the emotional pain we carry for any given issue.

This week, we will explore this Spiritual Truth.

Namaste
Jeff

Quote of the Week

“As you spiritually ascend, you must continually SEE, FEEL and CORRECT your old fixed beliefs. This will free up large amounts of your life force energy so that you can keep on…consciously creating your life” – Hu Dalconzo “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self”

Truth Four:
As You Spiritually Ascend With Truth, You Bring to View More of Your Ego-Based Avoidance Patterns.

The metaphor of an onion is quite apt for the purpose of spiritual growth. This picture is especially helpful since the core of the onion is a vibrant yellow like an inner light!
You also have an inner light, a connection to Source energy…to your soul from which flows life-force energy. This life-force energy contains the energy of happiness, peace and joy. Through this life force energy and how we envision it playing out in our lives results in how much love, security and abundance we manifest.

As I keep emphasizing, it is what we put our intention and attention upon that we manifest as results in our lives.

But to get to the point where we CAN manifest what we desire, we have to let go of everything that separates us from our own Source energy, from our own inner light.

Look up at those layers. Realize you have layers of hurt, anger, frustration, sadness, sorrow, embarrassment, shame, envy, etc…all of which continue to manifest the same unwanted experiences over and over again.
And your ego-mind in absence of any other direction in your early life came up with ego defenses to deflect the pain you simply did not know how to handle. If your parents had never learned to feel and release their feelings, then how could you learn how to do it yourself.

So the ego-mind avoided the pain. It minimized it, repressed it, denied that it was there at all and focused your attention on coping devices. Some people eat more than their body requires and consume foods other than which their bodies optimally function.
Some people drink alcohol to numb the pain they don’t know how to release. Some people use drugs to escape the despair of facing the pain directly. Others use sex or pornography as a way to distract them from facing their own feelings of inadequacy or inner worthlessness.
Some people use TV, movies, music, jobs, pets, children, etc…as excuses why they cannot face their pain, why they don’t have time.

All of it is just their ego continuing to run their lives and avoid the pain. It is trading a short term avoidance for more long term pain. Your pain cannot be avoided. It has to be sur-faced, felt and released in order for you to heal.

The Earth is evolving as well. She…like us…is sur-facing her pain and releasing it. As she does so, it creates “natural disasters” that cause these emotions to come up within us.
These are not “problems.” They are opportunities for healing.

Every “problem” in your life is an opportunity for you to heal something…for you to turn your attention from what you do not want and to re-connect to your own Source of life-force energy and to re-create what you do want.

Re-Creation

Your life is a process of creation and re-creation. When you create something that does not match your intention, just feel and release any feelings of disappointment or frustration.
Seek to find the source of these feelings. It is best to work with a coach or counselor who can objectively help you find the negatively charged belief that attracted the unwanted experience to you.

So for example when I work with a client, no matter how the client sees or talks about themselves, I see them as a perfect Divine being who is capable of creating anything.

My role is to help them release the layers of emotional pain that separates them from not simply intellectually understanding they are this, but FEELING it. My goal is to help them feel their Divine power experientially.

Once they start to feel it on their own, they start to consciously create their lives. When they then create a situation that doesn’t match what they desire, they then know how to let go of their own pain…and to re-create the experience again using their own God-like abilities.

And that’s when re-creation starts to get fun!

Namaste

© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2010. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and intact, full credit is given to the author(s), and that it is distributed freely.

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Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 3

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!

This week, we will explore the all important Spiritual Truth # 3 of being able to understand that our enemies are our teachers.

It takes a high degree of consciousness to separate our perceptions from what is really happening, so this is something that must be practiced.

But the more you intellectually understand what your “enemies” represent in your life, the faster you can heal and start creating what you DO want to experience.

Namaste
Jeff

Quote of the Week

“Remember, your “so called” enemies will keep reappearing in your life until you learn the lesson that they have come to teach you” – Hu Dalconzo “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self”

You have no enemies…

Truth Three:
You Have No Enemies…just Lessons.

This can be a difficult lesson to understand because we are born into this world tied to our ego mind which is filled with the karmic energies we came to work on in this lifetime.
Our ego tells us that if we are to feel better, we need to change what someone else is doing, saying or not doing or saying. We have been programmed all of our lives to believe that we change our lives by convincing someone else to change so that we feel better. But this is a denial of who and what we are. It is also only a short term fix.

So for example, if I dislike my joy and I change jobs hoping that my new job, new manager or new co-workers will change how I feel, I am only trading one situation for another. The new place may feel better for a little while as my optimism may carry me for awhile, but if I have not dealt with the anger that surfaced at my old job, or the fear and anxiety that surfaced again and again, I am sure to experience it again.

Others are simply the mirror to our own pain. It is our perceptions of them that cause our “problems.” Our perceptions are created by the karmic energies we brought into this life to work out and are anchored in this life by the life experiences we had in childhood.
Our parents can often seem like the greatest enemies we have.

But in order to heal this, we must take a step back and recognize who we really are. We are NOT the sons, daughters, wives, husbands, sisters, brothers, friends, engineers, teachers, etc. These are the roles we chose to play in this lifetime. They are the backdrop to the grand play we are in. They provide the opportunity for us to experience the drama of life.

We ARE Divine Vibrational Beings. Whatever we focus our attention (vibration) upon grows in strength and power. So when we focus upon something we do not like, that situation grows and we experience more of that.
And we came into this life with a karmic agenda. Many of us brought all of our past life karma into this life. We chose VERY difficult paths of abuse, abandonment, shame and feelings of inadequacy so that we could remember who and what we truly are and transcend ALL of it.

Our parents, caretakers, teachers, spouses and friends agreed to soul contracts with us so that we and THEY could experience the dramas of life in order to realize experientially who and what we truly are. Some of us are awakening to who and what we are faster than others. This can be confusing for us because others are still enmeshed in their dramas.

So when we look out at our world, the way we start to differentiate between our drama and their drama is by how WE feel. If we feel bad in any way, then the responsibility is ours to heal it. If someone else is feeling it, it’s their responsibility to heal it.
Only you can think YOUR thoughts, feel YOUR feelings, heal your SELF, choose to let it go, choose to visualize what you do want, etc. And only THEY can do that for themselves as well.

When you start to see your “enemies” as your mirror to what you most need to heal…you can silently bless them for keeping their soul contract and let them go.
Then you can turn your attention inward to forgive yourself and others and finally release your emotional karmic burdens.

You can then understand what the drama was really about…your healing.

Practice of the Week

Think of someone you feel angry, frustrated with or perhaps even hurt by.

Does the situation you feel with them seem to happen to you again and again?

If so, understand that this is simply the Law of Attraction in action. It is working 24/7 in response to the energies YOU carry.

So think of this person again and tell them in your mind how you feel…then forgive them.

Forgive them because you don’t want to carry these feelings any longer. Be willing to release everything you feel is the “evidence” of WHY you are justified to feel as you do.

Remember that the Course in Miracles says, “Do you want to be right…or do you want to be happy?”

As long as you want or feel the NEED to be right, you cannot heal. You have to be willing to completely let of of all of it.
For understand that while in this life, you may have been the victim…in other lives you were the offender…maybe even in this life…maybe even something you did unconsciously that hurt someone else.

What you are feeling is simply your own karmic energy coming back to you.

So forgive yourself first and then the other person. The other person is simply your mirror showing you what you have been at some point, allowing you to feel both sides of the energetic equation.

Forgive yourself for it was all part of the growth experience, to KNOW yourself as the Divine being you are.
You were simply learning what power was, what love was, what peace was and how to manifest all of it.

Forgive yourself first…then others.

Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 2

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!

This week, we are discussing the Second Spiritual Truth and its impacts on our health, relationships, career, etc.

This is also being explored in a new book coming out called “The Shadow Effect” by Debbie Ford, Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson.

We cannot run from our shadow side. The path to healing requires us to turn and face it directly…then watching it melt under the light of our consciousness.

Namaste
Jeff

Quote of the Week

“If you don’t deal with the shadow, the shadow will deal with you.” – Debbie Ford

Most of Your Core Foundational Beliefs…

Truth Two:
Most of Your Core Foundational Beliefs are Rooted in…FEAR.

Many people have told me…”I don’t have anything to work on.” I smile when I hear them say that, but do not argue with them. Anyone who says this simply has not yet reached the stage where they are ready to deal with it.
But make no mistake, we ALL have these beliefs. We all have a shadow side that we have to deal with. We all will have to deal with it eventually if we intend to grow.

Our ego minds tell us that we don’t need to change, that our spouse, boss, friends, family, neighbors, government, country…etc needs to change so that we can feel better about it. This is denial.
When we change by facing and releasing our core fear-based foundational beliefs, we are then able to see that everyone else has these too and this is what continues to manifest realities both individually and collectively that do not match the highest we can imagine for ourselves.
If we try to imagine more for ourselves and happen to share those with people who have not yet dealt with their shadows, they will all too quickly tell us, “You’re dreaming. That’s not reality” or something similar.
Yet anyone who has lost the ability to even dream is truly the one creating their own living nightmare.

We are seeing the effects of these negatively charged beliefs in our world today. But the way to change our world is not to get others to change. We change our world by changing ourselves from the inside out. It is not enough to simply do positive visualizations or affirmations. We must let go of the negative beliefs anchored within us by our fear-based energies.

Can you imagine your life without worry? How would you live your life differently if you felt safe to pursue your life the way YOU wanted to live it?
What if you felt safe enough to work at the career your soul feels called to do, to pursue interests that you may think you cannot make a living at?
Would you stay in relationships that were not satisfying to you intellectually, emotionally and spiritually if you understood you could have the relationship you wanted and weren’t worried about how others would feel about your change?

Whatever you are experiencing in your life today is YOUR creation. What we are experiencing in our world today is OUR creation. We cannot just blame others and say we had nothing to do with all that is occurring. Our negative energies, the very energies that swell up within us when we read or see things that anger, frustrate or disappoint us are what must be released for us to heal ourselves and heal our world.

Use the exercise this week to dig deeper into your life. Face your fears head on and let go of all of the “evidence” you feel justifies holding onto them. Remember, the “evidence” was just a reflection of your inner consciousness to begin with…the reflection of the consciousness you brought in with you to work on in this life.

Namaste

Jeff

Practice of the Week

How different would your life be if you could let go of any feelings of:

Embarrassment:
- about the way your body looks
- your social status
- abundance level
- how much and quality of stuff you have
- how adequate / competent you feel in areas you feel drawn to enjoy

Anger / Frustration:
- with people in your life
- with your self
- with God

How about for:

Anger-Betrayal-Hatred

Sad-Abandoned-Despair

Afraid-Insecure-Anxious

Sorrow-Grief-Indifferent

Frustrated-Pessimistic-Powerless

Disappointed-Discouraged-Doubtful

Embarrassed-Inadequate-Victim

Envious-Deprived-Jealous

Hurt-Excluded-Helpless

Scared-Hopeless-Confused

Ashamed-Unworthy-Guilty
Read through each feeling and jot down any that you feel something about. Then write out how this shows up in your life. As you write, you will likely feel the feeling welling up within you.
This feeling can be scary and your mind may want to distract you from it. But let that feeling come up. It is rising to the surface to be felt and released. Breathe directly into that feeling and exhale it out forcefully. Use EFT to tap it out. Use other detox methods to let it go. Physical exertion can help with this.

Be willing to let go of your pain. Forgive yourself. Forgive others.
You grow every time you release fear-based energies. It allows you to fill that space with love. As you release and refill, you gain the experiential wisdom for which the whole experience was created to fulfill.

Be willing to face your shadows…to realize more light.

Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 1

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!

This week, I am starting a seven week series in applying the “Seven Spiritual Truths” from Hu Dalconzo’s “Self-Mastery – A Journey Home to Your Self.”

Studying these truths alone gave me greater peace, but in really learning to apply them…gave me a greater view of the God within me and all of us.
I hope you enjoy this series.

Namaste
Jeff

Quote of the Week:

“As a Godlike being, you are incapable of error or failure. What you perceive as an error is either your old Karma self burning off or your spiritual evolution manifesting.” - Hu Dalconzo

You Have Never Made a Mistake

Truth One:
You have never made a mistake because you are incapable of error or failure.

Last weekend, I was recounting to my niece a story from my past in which I had an opportunity to write with a famous country singer. I presented some songs I had written to his partner who was a music publisher on Music Row at the time. He said they were good and he wanted me to write with the singer.
I realized later that as I was recounting the story, I still carried feelings of disappointment, embarrassment, shame and anger…all directed at myself.

The reason I didn’t take the opportunity at the time was due to fears of not being good enough. But then I punished myself further by holding onto all of these other feelings.

I know that one of the lessons my soul came into this life to work on is “perfectionism.” That doesn’t mean I think that I AM perfect. It means there is a part of my ego mind that has always told me that I have BE perfect and that if I’m not, if I make mistakes, then I have to be punished.
I realize now that I have manifested my own punishments as an adult by hanging onto these repressed negatively charged feelings…for they just manifest the same unwanted realities over and over again.

I have limited new opportunities coming to me, turned down offers for assistance…instead of embracing all of the blessings open and offered.
I turned down help and opportunities unconsciously by holding onto feelings of unworthiness.
These feelings created a fatigue within me that seemed insurmountable at times.

What I needed to do was to forgive myself for my perceived past errors, to fully feel the feelings I had repressed and allow them to provide me the information contained within their energy to teach me how to respond more joyfully in the future.

In doing so, I find more joy within and feel more confident to put myself out there in the world, knowing that I will not always be “perfect” in new situations, but also knowing that each new situation carries within it either the opportunity for success or to heal and release something else…which also brings me closer to success.

What past “mistakes” have you hidden away? Are you still unconsciously punishing yourself? Isn’t it time to let it go?

Namaste

Jeff

Practice of the Week

Think of something for which you still feel embarrassed and ashamed.

Using your mind’s eye, see yourself as you looked when this happened. Give yourself a big hug and surround yourself with warm, golden light.

Tell your younger self that it is safe now to feel these feelings and let go of them. Tell your self that only by letting these go can you create a more joyful outcome.

Find where in your body you feel the energy of this experience. Move your consciousness into this area by breathing into it. Once you are in the center of it, just FEEL it…just experience it.
Your mind may want to run away from it, but remember…it’s just a FEELING and if you still have it, you HAVE been running from it.
Just FEEL it and keep breathing into the center of it.
You may find yourself taking deeper and deeper breaths into it.
Exhale the energy with the sound of Ahhh…which is the sound of relief.

This is a way to surrender these feelings back to God.

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The Relief of Surrender

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!

I learned of a concept early on in the Self-Mastery process called, “Surrendering to my Higher Powers in Prayer.” Early on, I considered the prayer to be the most important aspect of this, but now I know that the act of surrender is actually what is important.
I learned in “Conversations with God – Book I” that words are simply expressions of the energy of my emotions. Just feeling the emotions themselves simplifies this process. When I stop and realize that who I truly am…my soul…is a form of energy and God is the Divine source from which I am formed, then I can more easily attain my desires by focusing on the energetic connection between God and I through my feelings than I can through words alone.
When I focus on what my ego wants out of a situation, I am typically not purely focused on the feeling of having what I desire. I am typically resisting that feeling and more focused on the feeling of not having it. I am unconsciously focused on the feeling of fear, embarrassment, shame, hurt or disappointment of not having what I want.
I have found that when I get to the point of being so tired of the fight and the struggle, that I reach the point where I am willing to just let it go and let God take care of it.
For some of us, it takes a lot for us to get to that point. Because it typically takes SO much, this point is often called, “the dark night of the soul.”
And yet, it is always darkest right before the dawn.

Explore the concept of surrender this week and in doing so, find the light within you yearning to be let out.

Namaste
Jeff Scholl

Quote of the Week:

“Do you want to be right…or do you want to be happy?” – A Course in Miracles

The Relief of Surrender

When I was introduced to the concept of surrender, I was taught several affirmations to remind me of the benefits of letting go. Some of my favorites are as follows.
Surrendering in prayer:

Allows me to detach from my EGO-mind when it says, “I don’t need help. I can do it alone.”
Frees me to leave the details to God as to how and when what I desire will manifest
Helps me to detach from the models of how life “should be”
Allows God to chauffeur around instead of trying to carry the world on my shoulders
Helps me to understand that “I can’t steer the river.”
Helps me to detach from my friends and family in order to allow them to learn from the natural consequences of their actoins

When I read these and the others in the Self-Mastery book, I am reminded that quite often I am making my life more difficult than it has to be by trying to live my life by DOING rather than allowing God to take care of the “heavy lifting.”
As I have grown, I have gradually turned over more and more of my life to God through the process of surrender. In doing so, my life has become much easier. I no longer worry about how everything is going to turn out. I do occasionally have something come up that concerns me and it may take me awhile to surrender it, but once I do any actions I take are guided by peace, love, compassion and understanding…rather than by fear.
The act of surrender is primarily a vibrational one. When I finally stop and just feel how I feel about a situation that has been causing me some amount of frustration, I realize how stressed I feel about it. I realize that this feeling I am feeling is manifesting more of what I don’t want and that if I want the situation to change, I have to change that vibration.
My ego mind tells me that I need to have someone else change in order for me to feel different, but my soul which is the primary guiding force in my life these days reminds me that the peace I seek will never be found by “thinking more.” It will always be found through seeking the tranquil peace that can only be found within.

Namaste
Jeff

Spiritual / Emotional Application

Praying to God has value because it gets me to start tapping into the very emotions that I need to release. I tell God what I am feeling and why and once I finish that, quite often I realize that I am ready to release it and let God handle it.
All too often, I am amazed how long I have held onto a fear or a hurt that I could have easily given to God to work out. At some point though, the need to feel relieved of this problem won out over the need to feel right.
These days, I rarely keep a problem for very long because I feel good most of the time and I know quickly when I have something that brings up worry or fear. I have no need to feel embarrassed because I have found that it feels better to let go of any need to be “perfect” and by openly surrendering this with others. I just tell people what I am afraid of instead of repressing my fear and thinking that I shouldn’t feel it.
I say to God, “I surrender and I now allow you to take this from me. I allow you to show me a solution. If I need to DO something, I ask that you make that obvious to me. I am going to assume that if it isn’t obvious that you are taking care of all of it and my job is just to be happy.”

Use this process, play with it and change it to whatever feels right to you. Simply saying over and over, “I surrender, I surrender, I surrender this to you” is sometimes all I need to let go.

Physical Application

To focus on surrender this week, allow your body to sleep as much as it needs to. Quite often, we feel the need to push ourselves. We think that we have all of these other people that we are responsible to serve and we forget about what WE need.
This week, take some time for yourself. Ask your body what it needs from you. If you need to sleep, don’t wait until your immune system becomes so weak that it becomes susceptible to illness. Take that time now!

Sleep in until you can’t sleep any more.
Sit in a hot bubble bath and relax.
Get a relaxing massage and allow there to be complete silence between you and the therapist…even if you normally talk in the session.
Spend some time in nature just being silent.

Be willing to surrender your normal stream of consciousness and allow the peacefulness of Spirit to fill your life!

Dis-Creation

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Greetings from Learning To Flow!
Do you ever feel like you’re at the mercy of life? Does it ever seem like you continue to encounter the same types of unpleasant situations in your life?

Perhaps you find yourself in the same kinds of unfulfilling relationships or that no matter how many times you change jobs, you wind up working with difficult managers or co-workers.

Quite often we feel like if we could just find the right person or the right job, we would feel happy or at peace.

When we are ready to take responsibility for our lives though, we remember that we are creating ALL of it. While we may not be consciously seeking out these kinds of situations, we are certainly unconsciously attracting it. The “why” of that is another discussion entirely and we will get to that in a few weeks.

But it is a huge step forward in the growth of a soul when we are finally ready to take responsibility for our creation and seek to understand how to change it. We covered one part of this last week when I explained how to create what you want.

This week, I will explain how to stop creating what you don’t want. This is called, “Dis-creation.”

You will find that only focusing on creation will only take you so far. You will arrive at a point that if you do not understand how to dis-create…you will just keep running into the same walls.

To master creation and dis-creation requires significant practice. But if you do not master it, then you will remain at the mercy of what seems like “the winds of fate” and in case you haven’t noticed, those winds are starting to pick up considerably.

If this is your first introduction to dis-creation, then get ready for your spiritual growth to start moving forward in leaps and bounds!

Namaste
Jeff Scholl

Quote of the Week:

“If you bring forth what is within you, it will heal you. And if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.” – St. Thomas

Peeling Away our Emotional Layers

As children, we reacted to our environments with intense feelings. If we were not taught otherwise, we creating stories around what we were seeing reflected back to us. And the more we replayed those stories in our minds, the more we were unknowingly programming our own minds.
If we had abusive parents, we quite naturally developed beliefs like, “I’m not safe” or “I don’t deserve love” or “I can’t have what I want.”

If we had an older sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “no one listens to me” or “I’m not important.”
If we were the oldest sibling, we may have developed beliefs such as “I’m responsible for everyone else” or “What I want doesn’t matter” or “I have to be the responsible one” or a myriad of other beliefs.

One way I started detaching myself from these beliefs was to stop identifying myself with them. I started identifying myself as who am what I truly am…a spiritual being…a being of energy. I started looking at my body as not who I was…but as my vehicle for what I am creating in this lifetime.
Once I could create that distinction clearly enough, then I came across information that reminded me that I came into this body…into my family…into the lives of the people who have touched me throughout my life..to become the conscious creator of my life.

But if I had come in as a clean slate, then I could not become that conscious creator because I would never have known anything different. So as I learned in “Conversations with God” if I had never learned “hot,” how could I know “cold?”
Similarly, if I had never been sick, how could I appreciate being well? How could I create healing in myself and others if I knew only vital health?

So into this life, I brought an agenda…a very full agenda…meaning I brought a lot of negative energies in with me. When I started understanding my life from that perspective, I realized that all of those people who I thought had been mean, hateful, rude and abusive to me…were also simply playing out their roles. They were perfectly responding to the set of energies I brought in…and I was responding to their as well.
And since I now knew that I could feel those energies through my feelings, then I could choose to LET THEM GO. Now this wasn’t always easy and when I first started out, I needed a coach to help me learn how to face those energies. I needed someone else to create a safe space for me to do it and to guide me through how to delve down into that energy and let it go. I had to learn to feel that energy and how to maturely express it to others.
Denying it was there only resulted in situations being attracted to me getting more and more intense…until I finally surrendered to just facing them and letting them go.

Dis-creation is the act of facing the feelings you have carried with you all of your lives and letting them go.

Anyone can learn how to do this but I will warn you that it takes practice to be able to face fear and pain. And it will also take the guidance of someone who has been through this to face your deepest fears.

Also realize that these are the fears and pain you don’t even realize are there until you start digging down into them. My coach proved to me in an hour how much pain I carried. He didn’t tell me I was carrying it. He just led me through some questions and through the questions he asked…I could feel it.
After going through this myself and coaching others for the past five years, I can safely say that everyone I know has these energies buried within them. Facing them is one of the most difficult phases on the spiritual journey towards mastery.

But once you experience the value of letting this energy go and choosing to practice a new, more loving energy in its place, your perceptions of what is possible for you in this life will shaft dramatically.

Namaste
Jeff

© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com

Spiritual Exercise of the Week

Think of an area that was painful to you when it happened. It could be something like divorce or a friendship ending. It can be the loss of a job or encountering a bully when you were in school.

Take a few moments and replay that experience in your mind. Do you still feel the feelings you experienced when it happened? If so, that energy is still within you and it is still attracting experiences that match it into your life so that you can heal it.

This is the purpose of attracting these situations in your life…to allow you to have an opportunity to heal and let go of the energy within you.

So many times, people tell me, “Oh I already worked through that. I’m done with it.” But when I ask them how it feels, they still feel it intensely. This is the difference between healing something and just denying that it’s there.

So close your eyes and replay the scene. Notice what you are feeling. Give yourself permission to feel angry, sad, worried, fearful, embarrassed, hurt, etc.
Notice where you feel this energy within you.
Now envision this energy as a small child and ask her/him why she is feeling what she is feeling. Allow him/her to vent their feelings to you and validate whatever they are telling you.
Explain to them that what they are feeling is normal….that anyone would feel that way. Explain to them that it’s natural that they feel pain or tightness in their chest…and explain that it’s necessary to feel it so they can let it go.

Then breathe into that area…allow yourself to feel it as intensely as you can while forcefully blowing that energy out.

Take at least 7 breaths in and blow it out, then blow out the next three breaths using the sound of relief…sighing out those breaths with “Ahhhhhh.”

Most people feel significantly better after this exercise. Some people only feel a little better, but again this comes with practice.

Realize that your ego will only allow you to go as deep as it feels safe and if you truly want to dive down deep, you’re going to need a “diving instructor.”

Once you learn how to go deep with guidance, you’ll feel safe enough to get into some of those feelings when they happen. When you get to that point, you are no longer at the mercy of the world. You realize at this point, as I did, that the FEAR isn’t “out there.” It’s “in here” and since it is, I can face it and let it go.

And the more I let it go, the less I am attracting similarly charged experiences into my life.

Dialoguing with Your Inner Child

Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Inner Child Work, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth

Greetings from Learning To Flow!

This week, we are taking the next step forward in creating our sustainable spiritual practice by learning about the inner child. I will explain what the term “Inner child” means and why it is so important.
Each of the steps in our spiritual practice tie together so we will continue to build on the fundamental practices of feeling our feelings and being in the now. We have to be in the now to face our feelings and we have to be practicing feeling them in order to be willing to face our inner child’s deepest fears and pain.

It is so important to understand that the pain we carry within us is manifesting what we experience as our “problems” in life and until we release these energies from our being and replace them with a reflection of who and what we really are, our world will not change.

Being a man, I know how resistant the ego is to taking this kind of step. My ego told me that doing something like this was silly and wouldn’t have any impact. But phase I of the shift from an ego-based consciousness to a heart-based consciousness is the realization that ego methods are not working sufficiently and we long for more.

I encourage you to take this important step on your journey, to surrender to the necessity of it and allow your inner child’s messages to flow.

Namaste
Jeff Scholl

Quote of the Week:

“We originally established our protections as children in an attempt to protect ourselves from pain that was too overwhelming for our little beings…As adults, that pain is still within the Inner Child and we may still be protecting against it. As long as we choose to protect against it, the work we must do to avoid that pain controls our lives.” Margaret Paul, PH.D. in “Inner Bonding”

Dialoguing with the Inner Child

This week, we’re going to talk about working with the inner child. In the Self-Mastery process, I learned a method called Self-Parenting. In “Inner Bonding,” Margaret Paul teaches her own form of this method and establishes a two-way dialogue with our inner child. I am going to explain how I have learned to dialogue with my own inner child, how this has helped me to grow and evolve as a soul and what benefits I’ve experienced as a result.

Before we get too far into this subject, let’s clear up what this term “inner child” means since many people feel uncomfortable at first with this term. The inner child is essentially our emotional body. It is the part of us in which our emotions are felt and stored or actually repressed. When we have an experience that triggers our repressed emotional energy it is our “inner child” that cries foul. The emotional energy is triggered and starts coming to the surface. If we are identified with that pain AS us or we are primarily identified with our minds, then we do not understand that it is not only normal and natural for those feelings to come to the surface, it is necessary that they do so.
When we are triggered, all that is happening is that this repressed emotional energy has attracted a situation for the purpose of evolving our soul. When we learn to recognize that this is what is happening and open a dialogue with this energy through the symbolic visualization of communicating with our inner child, then we can let go of those feelings more easily and replace them with feelings of love, acceptance and security. When our inner child feels safe and secure, our vibration is raised and we experience the reflection of that higher vibration in our life experiences. In effect, we are clearing out the blockages in our emotional body which is imprinted upon our soul in this lifetime.
So again, it is important to note that what has happened in this lifetime did not “cause” these energies to be there. What happened to us with our parents, teachers, siblings, etc was a reflection of the energies…or the agenda we brought in with us. When we can detach ourselves enough from the perspective that we are this person who all of these bad things have happened to in our lives and start identifying ourselves primarily as a soul who is simply continuing our evolution in this lifetime, then we are able to move forward in that growth more easily.
Visualizing the inner child as being the one who has all of these upset emotions allows us to detach ourselves from identifying with the emotions and/or the thoughts that spring from these emotions. We are then able to be who we really are…a soul who is expressing our unique energy in a human form.

When I learned how to create this conversation with my “inner child,” pretty quickly I didn’t feel so attached to these emotions. I didn’t feel like they were mine. I just felt like they were being expressed through me. This is an important distinction as being able to see myself as the “observer” of the triggers and the resulting emotions has helped me to understand “why” my inner child is upset. It has helped me to validate that he has a right to feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc and to give him permission to feel it. This distinction between me and my inner child also allows me to create a safe space which allows him to let go of his repressed emotions. I can then see myself as his parent and giving him what he needs to feel which is loved, accepted and safe. And when he feels that…I feel it in my heart. As a result, I am feeling safer and more loved in my life…not because the outside world is giving it to me…but because I have the power to give myself this feeling.
But in doing so, it has changed my vibration significantly. I do feel safer and more confident in my life and I am seeing more people reflect acceptance and appreciation for who I am back to me. Another side effect is that I am experiencing an explosion of creativity for what I want to create in my life and what I want to write about. Right now I have more topics to write about than I have time, so my next project is to create more time to write.

For more on how to dialogue with your inner child, go to the “Spiritual Exercise of the Week.”

Spiritual Exercise of the Week

When you become aware that you are upset or fearful about something, find a place where you can get quiet and explore these feelings.
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths…slowly inhaling and exhaling.
Scan your body with your awareness and feel for where you feel this energy in your body. Notice what it feels like and put all of your focus on just feeling it there.

Then see a younger version of yourself there. Notice what age your inner child is and ask him/her what she is feeling…and wait for an answer.
Then when you have that answer, ask them why they are feeling that. Let this energy tell you why this is coming up right now.

Validate your inner child by telling them that it is normal to feel that way.
So for example if your boundaries have been violated in some way, you need to validate your inner child that it is normal to feel angry when this happens. By doing so you are giving them permission to feel what they feel.
Most of us were never validated so this may take practice or you may need to have a coach help you with this prior to being able to get really good at this.

Once your inner child feels safe to feel what she/he is feeling, you may feel a strong rush of emotion. Whatever pain you have been experiencing may get significantly more intense. This is normal.
Just recognize what is happening and instead of running from it…breathe directly into the center of that pain. Inhale deeply and forcefully exhale. You may have to do this several times, but you will start to feel this energy coming up and out of you.
Some people say it helps to see the pain as a dark area and see themselves breathing light directly into that area. They then see the light breaking up the dark area and turning into a dark mist that they are exhaling…kind of like what happens in “The Green Mile.”
There is no right or wrong thing to see or experience. Allow yourself to create something that works for you.

After you release your pain, tell your inner child how courageous he/she is and tell them how much you love them. Give them a big hug and help them to feel safe.
Take a few moments and just practice feeling that love in your heart…and then open your eyes!

This may seem like a very simple exercise, but you will be surprised

Physical Exercise for Your Inner Child

Once you’ve established a dialogue with your inner child, maintain that dialogue and ask her/him what she wants to do to have fun.

Be willing to accept any answer that comes…whether it’s to go play on a playground, go to an amusement park or go dancing.
Be willing to go with whatever answer comes and allow yourself to have fun!

Facing and Feeling your Feelings

Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Enlightenment, Spiritual Growth

From LTF Newsletter – September 5th, 2009

Greetings from Learning To Flow!
I had planned to talk about “Being in the Now” this week, but pretty much as soon as I wrote that, I started getting messages that the first topic needed to be about “Feeling Your Feelings.” And then to drive that point home with me, I was forced to feel my feelings all week long even those I didn’t want to feel.
In working again this week with my coach, she helped me peel back the layers on a core belief that had been manifesting more and more painful results throughout my life. The more I encountered the situation, the more energy I repressed that attracted it in the first place. The more energy I repressed, the worse the situation was when it happened again. Over time, this drove me to isolate myself from others because I did not feel safe to be around some without my boundaries being violated.

I realized this week that I had a core belief that I brought into this world to heal. In forgiving those that reflected it back to me, I was able to finally able to let these feelings go and embrace the energy of acceptance of who I am.

As we progress throughout the seven steps of a sustainable spiritual practice, you will find that to do any of it…you must be able to truly feel your feelings…for as it says in “Conversations with God”…’”feelings are the language of the soul.”‘

Namaste
Jeff Scholl

Quote of the Week:

“To be angry with someone is easy; but to be angry with the right person, at the right time, for the right reason and to the correct degree…that is difficult.” Aristotle – paraphrased

Facing and Feeling your Feelings

I notice that when I feel angry, my mind wants to play the situation that triggered it over and over in my mind to convince me that I have a right to feel angry. What it has taken me a long time to realize is that my mind does this because unconsciously, I had a belief that it was not safe to feel or express my anger. So in just being able to accept that it is normal for me to feel angry when my boundaries have been violated, I can then feel the energy of my anger in my being, breathe into it and release it.
One of the things prevented me from doing this is because for a long time, I had repressed so much anger that when I felt anger, I did not just feel the anger of the moment; I felt the energy of all of the anger I had repressed. I had forgiven people, but had mostly only done so from a conceptual perspective. I had not actually released all of the energy from that moment. So I was unconsciously repressing all that I had not released. My mind told me that I had handled that situation so it didn’t make sense to go back and feel those feelings again. In fact, because my mind did not want to experience those feelings again, I rationalized that I had “put it behind me.”
What I didn’t realize is that this is impossible. I am a being of energy and whatever I do not release, I hold onto. Whatever I hold onto becomes a part of my energetic signal.

To understand why this is important, we have to examine who and what we are. We are not our physical bodies and we know this. We are not our mind. We are spiritual beings. We are beings of energy that use our minds and bodies to express who and what we are in this world. We are essentially energy and we have been evolving for a long time throughout several lives.
For many of us in this lifetime, we brought all that we had not transcended into this life in order to heal it. The energies we brought in form layers of perceptions that color how we view the world. Our perception of the world is not simply affected by our childhood environment. Our childhood environment provides a stage for the energies we brought into this world. Our environment was selected by our soul to support what we wanted to experience and transcend in this lifetime. Our lives are an ongoing experiment in which we are learning how to allow energy to flow freely through us.

Our minds tell us that if we let go of the anger or the fear or the shame, that we will not have “learned our lesson.” We tell ourselves that only through guilt can we ensure we do not repeat our “transgressions.” But it actually works the opposite of this, for as long as we hold onto the energy we are attracting similar experiences into our lives again and again. It is only when we allow ourselves to let go of the energies we have repressed that we “learn” what that experience was there to teach us.

For me, I had to learn how to feel my feelings, so it was only in allowing myself to fully feel the energy in each moment that I have been able to release repressed energy from my past. It was easy for me to think about my feelings, to keep running events over and over in my mind thereby justifying my right to feel angry, fearful, sad, disappointed, hurt, etc.

I could not understand why I kept experiencing the same types of relationships, career struggles and even traffic incidents over and over until I understood why those experiences kept showing up in my life. They were there to show me what I had repressed. In many cases, it was only when the feeling overwhelmed me that I became aware of how much energy I had repressed for a particular emotion. Once I became aware of it, I was able to start feeling and releasing it.

Along the way, I have learned many methods of releasing this energy proactively rather than reactively and we will be covering many of these over the course of the next several weeks. But none of these methods were effective for me until I learned to feel my feelings. Because in each method, these emotions start floating to the surface. If my mind does not understand what is happening, it distracts me from allowing this energy to be released through the action of just allowing it to BE and feeling it. My mind focuses on things I need to do in the future, things I should have done in the past, things I need to be doing right now…anything to keep me from just feeling what I am feeling.

Once I learned to just allow it to be, breathe into it, feel it and allow it to leave…only then did I learn what it was there to teach me.

Learning to feel your feelings IS scary at first if you are not accustomed to feeling them at all, especially for men. It is much like an undiscovered country waiting to be explored. Our emotions are designed to be taken in, felt and processed out…much like our food.

This week, allow yourself to either start this exploration of your feelings…or to deepen it.

Namaste
Jeff

There are many feelings exercises out there. One of the best I have found and what I use when I do not have a coach who can guide me through this is “Yoga for Emotional Flow” by Stephen Cope.

This is a two CD set in which the author provides some valuable information on how important it is to feel our feelings and why. On the second CD, he provides three meditations in which he will guide you through both how to clear your emotions on a daily basis and how to release them when you are feeling particularly turbulent emotions. In the “Riding the Wave” meditation, he provides a simple, yet repeatable process that you can learn and master.

Note: I am not connected to Stephen Cope in any way. As with all of the resources I recommend in my books, articles and newsletters, this is simply the most effective methods I have found in my research.

To practice feeling the subtle energies of your feelings this week, get a deep tissue massage. When your therapist finds a knot and presses into, allow yourself to face the pain, breathe into it and release it. The more you become comfortable in facing any pain, the easier it is to feel your feelings when they happen.

“Feelings are not right, wrong, good or bad…they just are!” – Hu Dalconzo

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LTF Weekly Newsletter – August 1st, 2009

Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Inner Child Work, Spiritual Growth

Greetings from Learning To Flow!

We are continuing our view into our emotional consciousness this week and how those blockages can manifest in our lives.

I want to point out something that was not apparent to me for much of my spiritual path and that is the application of the knowledge being provided in these newsletters.

Whether you’ve been on your journey for a matter of months or for many years, all of this information is virtually use it unless you practice it.

How you practice the application to this information does not have to match what I am providing in these exercises. These much like the exercises in many other books by well known spiritual teachers are just suggestions. They are ideas for you to play with.

If you have created something that works well for you and you would like to share it, send it to me and I will publish it here so others may benefit.

All of us on a path of spiritual development are teachers. Some of us are doing it through overt methods as I am with my writing, teaching and coaching. But even that is designed to plant a seed within each individual I touch. The intent is to help you all implement a spiritual practice in your lives that helps you learn to identify with the spiritual beings you truly are…so you may explore how to express that in every aspect of your lives thereby modeling it for others.

As many have said, if we are going to change our world, we must BE the change.

I encourage each of you to practice being the change and sharing with us all how you are doing that, what you are learning and how it has benefited your life. I can assure you, that your story will inspire and benefit others.

Quote of the Week:

“It is easy to be angry with someone, but to be angry with the right person, at the right time, for the right reason and to the correct degree…that is difficult.” Aristotle – paraphrased

This week’s article:

Your Emotional Consciousness

Another way to consider who and what your inner child is…is your emotional consciousness. There is a consciousness within everything…within plants, animals, crystals, even every cell of your body has a consciousness. When anything within us is out of balance, we feel it and our inner child is our connection to that. Using the image of our inner child is simply a way for us to communicate with this consciousness in a paradigm that our minds can understand.
We know when we have angry or sad feelings within us. And at some point we learn to master how to release these feelings without having this inner dialogue. But that takes practice and in the interim, having this dialogue with your inner child can be a very valuable step.

I used to think that once I got to a certain point in my spiritual journey that I would just be in this place of peace, love and joy that no “bad” feeling could touch. But I have learned that my judgment about whether these feelings were good or bad was most of my problem. Emotions are simply part of the human experience. As long as I am here, I will have situations that will take me out of my place of peace. So for me, mastery is not about being in a place of perfect peace and joy. Mastery is about my conscious choice to return to that place of happiness in the face of a situation that provides an upset. It does not mean that I won’t ever get angry or sad or embarrassed or be ashamed. It means that I have learned how to use these experiences to grow.

So what does that mean?

As I have noted before in these posts, many of us were taught that it wasn’t acceptable for us to get angry. We were taught that by our parents and teachers as a child. As we grew, we may have always had an authority figure in our life with whom we didn’t feel we could express our anger. Many of us learn to just bottle that up inside of us. Make no mistake though…that energy is going to be expressed somewhere. Remember what emotions are…”energy in motion.”
We must be aware that we cannot stop the motion. We will either learn to holistically express our anger or we will learn the hard way that the emotional energy of that anger will “stay in motion” until it is released.

Read the quote by Aristotle over to the right. The goal is to be angry with the right person at the right time for the right reason. When we do this, we express the appropriate amount of anger. We are allowed to defend our boundaries and we MUST give ourselves permission to do that.
As a child, I learned that I was not allowed to do that. My mother called it “talking back” and I was punished for it, sometimes severely.

So how that has manifested in my adult life is that I have been afraid to say what I felt or thought when I was in stressful situations with someone. While my wife for example may feel completely comfortable expressing her anger in a disagreement, my mind shuts down and I have to walk away because I have yet to completely let go of the fear of speaking up for myself.

The difference between me and many of the people I come across in my life is that I know it and I consciously accept that I am in a process to let it go. I realize that my life is about seeing my reflection in others. It is not what they are consciously intending to show me or have me feel. It is my perception of life…my unconscious perception of life bouncing off of them.
Before I learned to really feel my feelings, I would just blame others and walk away. I walked away from many, many people…friends, lovers, business associates, family. I didn’t understand what those experiences were teaching me. I didn’t understand that some of what was happening was caused by my inability to express my feelings…to feel safe to express my anger, my disappointments, my frustrations, fears, worries and my embarrassment at not being able to understand what was happening.
I also in some cases stayed in situations long past the point where they were serving me because I didn’t understand how to translate the messages my feelings were giving me.

The only way I can ever find out whether to stay and work it out or to go though is to feel safe enough to express my feelings. And to be able to express them, I had to just stop and feel them instead of just thinking about them. I had to stop thinking about what the other person did or said…or what they didn’t do or say. I had to learn that if I was ever going to create the situation I DID want to experience, I had to let go of the energy that was reflecting what I didn’t want to experience. Because as I have learned both through my studies and my own life, that as long as I hold onto old hurts, angers and pains, I will unconsciously manifest the same experiences again and again.

My teacher taught me that this process is about “making the unconscious – conscious and making the conscious – unconscious.” What that means is that as long as our foundational beliefs, our foundational perceptions of fear are unconscious to us, we cannot heal it. We must make it conscious so we can feel it and release it.

We can then choose what we do want to feel in life and practice that feeling until it is unconscious to us…until we just accept that we are loved, that we are safe and that we are joyful expressions of the Divine.

Namaste
Jeff

Exercise of the Week:

Write down an experience that seems to continue to happen to you over and over again in different ways. Perhaps you seem to be dating the same type of person or having the same types of experiences with them. Perhaps you get jobs that have difficult managers or co-workers who betray you. Perhaps you have a body issue, weight you cannot lose or a health problem that crops up again and again.

Realize that if you have emotional energy blocked, it colors your perceptions and prevents you from realizing a path towards your solution.

So now that you have your experience written down, how do you feel about this?

Now think of the earliest time in your life when you felt this experience.

Journal about what was happening.

Allow those old emotions to flow to the surface. Breathe into them and release them.

These old emotions may remind you of something very painful someone did or said in your childhood. While it is common for the mind to want to hold onto this energy, it is necessary to let it go in order to heal.

Where do you feel this energy in your body?

What does it feel like?

Allow it to just BE there. Feel the tightness of this area and then start taking deep breaths. Use your conscious awareness to direct your breath to this place. Inhale through your nose and exhale forcefully. Do this several times and on your last few exhales, use the sound of “Ahhh” like a sigh of relief to let the last of it go.

Take a few more deep breaths imagining that you are breathing in light and love into this area.

Think about what you desire to experience. What would that look like? What would it sound like? Most importantly, what would it feel like?

Journal about what you intend to create. Let the Universe take care of how and when. Just focus on what it is that you want and practice that visualization and feeling as often as you can.

The more you practice that feeling, that vibration and that is the primary way you view this issue…from this new perspective and feeling, the faster it will manifest into your life perhaps in a way you never expected!

LTF Weekly Newsletter – July 25th, 2009

Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Inner Child Work

Greetings from Learning To Flow!

This week, we are going to explore how to create a dialogue with our emotions, why many of our emotions have been repressed and how releasing them can be highly beneficial for us.

We must learn to communicate with our emotional body since it is the connection between our physical body in this world and our non-physical self. It is through the nurturing of this connection that we are able to learn to allow our power to flow into this world.

We can learn to feel how open or closed this connection is and how to consciously choose to allow more of the peace, love, happiness and joy to flow freely through us.

Quote of the Week:

“Think of your subconscious as a small child…Every time you give thanks to yourself for something you have created, that little child within you lights up, sparkles and wants to do even more for you.” Sanalya Roman and Duane Packer “Creating Money”

Dialogue with Your Inner Child

Think back to when you were growing up. Did the adults around you listen to you or were you expected to listen to them? Did you have permission to have what you wanted, to play when YOU wanted, to laugh, cry, get angry and express your emotions freely? Did you feel safe, happy, loved and nurtured in your world?

If the answers to any of these questions is either “No” or “My parents did the best they could” or “I don’t remember,” then you may find it highly beneficial to establish an ongoing dialogue with your inner child.

You may have heard that term a lot and not really understood what it means. So when I use the term ”inner child” I am referring to your emotions…how you feel about things. So for example, how do you feel when you look at your body in the mirror? When you look at your body, do you feel happy, peaceful and excited about all of the activities you use your body to enjoy?

If not, the shortest way to changing either the health or fitness of your body may not be to just go hire a personal trainer or to get a doctor or nutritionist’s opinion on what you should be eating or drugs to take. It may be much more effective to ask your inner child what is going on.

If you as a child were not listened to by the people around you, it is quite common to have learned to repress what you wanted and for your subconscious to develop a belief of “no one listens to me.”

Now your subconscious and your emotions are closely tied together. So for example, your subconscious beliefs about your body and how you feel about your body are connected. If you have a belief that “no one listens to me” in your subconscious, it’s common that you are not listening to your inner child either. This is one way you are passing down the behavior that was modeled for you by your caretakers. It’s not their fault. It’s just what they knew.

If you want to change that and perhaps treat your children differently, you can develop that behavior by first learning how to listen to your own inner child first. When you learn to listen, to validate how your inner child feels and why, you may find for example that you eat foods out of habit but that your body isn’t all that happy about. You may have overlooked the signals that your body was sending you.

With the plethora of over the counter medications for lactose intolerance or antacids, we learn we can override our body’s signals. Sometimes our body may create illness or dis-ease to get our attention and then we go looking in other areas. We may have developed habits of eating certain foods to avoid facing how we felt about something.

And yet a step in that direction is to just look inward, create a dialogue and be willing to listen…to feel what is happening and to take responsibility for what we have been unconsciously creating.

How safe or happy our inner child feels about something determines how open our heart feels to it. Our heart is the connection between our physical reality and our non-physical self. Our Non-physical self is our soul, our Higher Self…our connection to Source energy. And so if we want to create peaceful, loving outcomes in our world, we cannot create those situatons if we feel fearful or angry most of the time. We cannot create that if our heart is closed.

We must learn to keep our hearts open, to keep that energy from our Higher Selves flowing through us. And our inner child is the gatekeeper to our heart. If our inner child feels safe, loved and nurtured, our heart is open. If our inner child feels angry, frustrated or hurt, our heart is closed.

Most of us go through our lives looking outwards to others, to external situations to be able to feel safe. But what is outside of us is a reflection to how safe our inner child feels. So if we want to see something different indicated to us in our physical reality, we must learn to nurture our inner child.

Use the exercise this week as an example of how to do this and let us know if you need any help determining what areas would be most beneficial to work on or to have someone guide you on how to do this effectively.

Namaste
Jeff

Exercise

Think of an area of your life that you want to change. Perhaps it is your fitness level (that’s mine!), your health, a relationship, your career, your romantic life, etc.

Close your eyes and imagine your inner child. Ask your inner child how old she’he is. Ask her how she/he feels about this situation. Notice that you can physically feel this somewhere in your body and allow it to be there.

Tell your inner child that you want to develop a relationship with her/him and that you want to start listening to what she’he has to say. Tell your inner child that you want her/him to share her/his feelings with you and ask her/him to give them to you.

Listen to what they have to say and then validate their feelings by telling them that it’s normal for them to feel that way. Anyone would feel that, but now it’s time to give those feelings to you. Breathe into those feelings and release them.

Then ask your inner child what they DO want to feel about this. Tell them to imagine their desired situation and envision this with them. Feel that feeling and breathe into it. If it is a positive emotion, allow it to flow freely throughout your body.

Praise your inner child for having the courage to give up their old feelings and for embracing change!

Journal about what you experience and make this a daily practice. If you do this for just a couple of weeks, you will be amazed at the changes you experience.

All of this may feel like you’re just making it up. Be willing to do that. All of us are either making up our lives as we go…or we’re reacting to what someone else made up for us.

Be willing to take hold of the reins of your life and create it the way YOU want it to be!

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