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Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 7
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Greetings from Learning To Flow!
With today’s newsletter, we come to the end of our series on the Seven Spiritual Truths.
Most spiritual seekers I know (including me) tends to make the whole spiritual journey harder than it has to be. We tend to think that there is one more piece of information we don’t have, one more method we haven’t learned yet, one more class we need to take…but that isn’t our spirit telling us this. It’s our ego mind…who uses these rationalizations and justifications to keep us from simply turning and facing what keeps us from seeing and experiencing our own inner light.
The first few moments of standing there in the midst of your own darkness can be terrifying…but if you can do it, you free yourself from the entrapment of living an ego identified life and take your first step towards living a Spirit identified and empowered life!
Namaste
Jeff
Quote of the Week
“When it’s all said and done, whether you believe you area child of God deserving of love, health and abundance, or whether you believe you’re not…YOU’RE RIGHT!” – Hu Dalconzo “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self”
Your God-like Abilities
Truth Seven:
You have…Godlike abilities
One of the most difficult admissions I had to make on my journey to mastery is that no matter what I was experiencing in my life…I was creating. I found that if I blamed anyone else for my experience of life, I was actually dis-empowering myself.
In taking control of my own power, the next step I found was to stop taking responsibilities for others’ feelings as well. Do you have someone in your life that no matter how much you care about them, when you are with them you always seems to say the “wrong” thing or be busy when they want to be with you? It’s important to understand that they are creating this reality of you. It is their perspective that must be changed, but as long as you are taking responsibility for their feelings, you are dis-empowering both yourself…AND them!
We are all Godlike beings with the ability to create what we want. When we start doing that and ONLY take responsibility for our own feelings, others may perceive us to be selfish. But we cannot create what we want for ourselves as long as we are enmeshed with others’ feelings and spending time thinking about what they want.
If we are to create what WE want, we must take the time to consider what it is that we really want. If you are someone who has felt responsible for others’ feelings all of your life, it may be very difficult to figure out exactly what it is that YOU want.
But ask yourself, “Do you want to continue to create realities for yourself that do not match the joy your soul wants to experience?”
This is the calling you feel within you…to experience the highest joys, the deepest love, the grandest peace…and then to create even more expansive versions of that.
God does not judge us if we want to experience material things. We have to let go of our judgment of ourselves for wanting to experience the joy of having a new car or a larger house or nicer clothes. Once we experience all of that, we may want others to experience those things too and may feel inclined to donate things we no longer use to people who would appreciate these things.
Once we have so much abundance that we feel completely safe in the world, we may enjoy the experience of that until we reach the point where we want everyone else to feel that safe as well. Ever wonder why people like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet give so much to charity…or spend so much time telling others how they made their money? It is because their souls want others to experience the joy they are living.
They have reached a point where more money will not make them more happy…however helping others find their joy does.
The power to create everything you want is within you. If you are waiting for it to show up in your outer reality so you can feel happy, joyful, safe or loved, you are denying your power. While you may get bits of it here and there, you will not and cannot achieve the deep levels of peace, love and joy without connecting to them inside of you first.
As you learn to connect to them, you may find layers of fear-based emotional energy. You must learn to stand there in the midst of that darkness with your awareness, boring a hole through it with your intention to find the peace awaiting you on the other side, feeling the safety of knowing that it IS there. You must be able to face down the illusions of fear before they will release themselves from you.
You must practice connecting to that peace, love and joy over and over. Once you feel it so strongly within you that you feel it outside of your meditative practice, you will find it showing up in your life more and more.
Your greatest challenge at that point will be to decide in what form you want these energies expressed.
Connect first…then create!
Practice!
Decide what in what form you want to express the energy of your creation.
For example, perhaps you want to create a career that fulfills you, but you have been told that you cannot make the same amount of money doing what you love as you are making now. Maybe you have done all of the research, studied all of the statistical trends, demographic studies…everything out there and you just KNOW that you can’t do what you love and make the money you want.
Are you starting to see the problem here?
You are studying “facts” that were created by people who had self-defeating belief systems. Are you going to base your life and your plans on what someone else was not able to do?
Perhaps you fear that if you leave your current job, then you will not attract enough customers or you will not find a place where you can express the deep levels of creativity you feel burning within you.
So you tell yourself that you just have to “face reality” and “play it safe.”
But do you?
Are these not simply rationalizations from your fear-based egoic mind? Will you ever achieve your dreams if you listen to this?
God knows NO such limits.
It is not important for you to know HOW your dreams will manifest. For them to manifest, you have to let go of the how. You must focus only on what you want to experience, what it looks like, sounds like, feels like and then allow the Universe to create the way it will come.
Then practice feeling the wonder and delight as the Universe starts to spin and create from nothingness the ways and the means to expressing itself through you.
This is all that is happening in our lives. Source energy is expressing itself through us. Our role is to choose how to express it and believe it.
Decide what you want. Let go of the obstacles that seem to be in front of you. Face down your fears. Embrace the feelings of wonder and gratitude as what you want is surely coming.
Take action when the little signs start to come through people (God in drag) and opportunities around you.
And if you need help with all of that, ask for help!
Namaste
Jeff
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2010. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and intact, full credit is given to the author(s), and that it is distributed freely.
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Applying the Seven Spiritual Truths in Your Life – Truth # 3
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Self Realization, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Relationships
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
This week, we will explore the all important Spiritual Truth # 3 of being able to understand that our enemies are our teachers.
It takes a high degree of consciousness to separate our perceptions from what is really happening, so this is something that must be practiced.
But the more you intellectually understand what your “enemies” represent in your life, the faster you can heal and start creating what you DO want to experience.
Namaste
Jeff
Quote of the Week
“Remember, your “so called” enemies will keep reappearing in your life until you learn the lesson that they have come to teach you” – Hu Dalconzo “Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self”
You have no enemies…
Truth Three:
You Have No Enemies…just Lessons.
This can be a difficult lesson to understand because we are born into this world tied to our ego mind which is filled with the karmic energies we came to work on in this lifetime.
Our ego tells us that if we are to feel better, we need to change what someone else is doing, saying or not doing or saying. We have been programmed all of our lives to believe that we change our lives by convincing someone else to change so that we feel better. But this is a denial of who and what we are. It is also only a short term fix.
So for example, if I dislike my joy and I change jobs hoping that my new job, new manager or new co-workers will change how I feel, I am only trading one situation for another. The new place may feel better for a little while as my optimism may carry me for awhile, but if I have not dealt with the anger that surfaced at my old job, or the fear and anxiety that surfaced again and again, I am sure to experience it again.
Others are simply the mirror to our own pain. It is our perceptions of them that cause our “problems.” Our perceptions are created by the karmic energies we brought into this life to work out and are anchored in this life by the life experiences we had in childhood.
Our parents can often seem like the greatest enemies we have.
But in order to heal this, we must take a step back and recognize who we really are. We are NOT the sons, daughters, wives, husbands, sisters, brothers, friends, engineers, teachers, etc. These are the roles we chose to play in this lifetime. They are the backdrop to the grand play we are in. They provide the opportunity for us to experience the drama of life.
We ARE Divine Vibrational Beings. Whatever we focus our attention (vibration) upon grows in strength and power. So when we focus upon something we do not like, that situation grows and we experience more of that.
And we came into this life with a karmic agenda. Many of us brought all of our past life karma into this life. We chose VERY difficult paths of abuse, abandonment, shame and feelings of inadequacy so that we could remember who and what we truly are and transcend ALL of it.
Our parents, caretakers, teachers, spouses and friends agreed to soul contracts with us so that we and THEY could experience the dramas of life in order to realize experientially who and what we truly are. Some of us are awakening to who and what we are faster than others. This can be confusing for us because others are still enmeshed in their dramas.
So when we look out at our world, the way we start to differentiate between our drama and their drama is by how WE feel. If we feel bad in any way, then the responsibility is ours to heal it. If someone else is feeling it, it’s their responsibility to heal it.
Only you can think YOUR thoughts, feel YOUR feelings, heal your SELF, choose to let it go, choose to visualize what you do want, etc. And only THEY can do that for themselves as well.
When you start to see your “enemies” as your mirror to what you most need to heal…you can silently bless them for keeping their soul contract and let them go.
Then you can turn your attention inward to forgive yourself and others and finally release your emotional karmic burdens.
You can then understand what the drama was really about…your healing.
Practice of the Week
Think of someone you feel angry, frustrated with or perhaps even hurt by.
Does the situation you feel with them seem to happen to you again and again?
If so, understand that this is simply the Law of Attraction in action. It is working 24/7 in response to the energies YOU carry.
So think of this person again and tell them in your mind how you feel…then forgive them.
Forgive them because you don’t want to carry these feelings any longer. Be willing to release everything you feel is the “evidence” of WHY you are justified to feel as you do.
Remember that the Course in Miracles says, “Do you want to be right…or do you want to be happy?”
As long as you want or feel the NEED to be right, you cannot heal. You have to be willing to completely let of of all of it.
For understand that while in this life, you may have been the victim…in other lives you were the offender…maybe even in this life…maybe even something you did unconsciously that hurt someone else.
What you are feeling is simply your own karmic energy coming back to you.
So forgive yourself first and then the other person. The other person is simply your mirror showing you what you have been at some point, allowing you to feel both sides of the energetic equation.
Forgive yourself for it was all part of the growth experience, to KNOW yourself as the Divine being you are.
You were simply learning what power was, what love was, what peace was and how to manifest all of it.
Forgive yourself first…then others.
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2010. Permission is granted to copy and redistribute this transmission on the condition that the content remains complete and intact, full credit is given to the author(s), and that it is distributed freely.
www.learningtoflow.com
Creating Your World
Posted by learning | Filed under Law of Attraction, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth, Vibrational Being
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
Christ said, “Ye are gods and ye know it not.”
This statement is often misunderstood primarily because we have assimilated a belief in our mass consciousness that we are less than God…instead of understanding that we are God…expressed in human form.
Some have confused this line in the other extreme professing that they were God and this is in error also since none of us individually are God. Even everyone on Earth collectively, along with every rock, plant and animal…is not the entirety of God.
The human mind seeks to define God and has long defined God in his own image instead of the other way around…meaning that humans have bestowed limits, judgments and restrictions on their perception of God.
We have even misinterpreted that God made man in his own image. What would be more accurate is that God made the human soul…the essence of our Self in God’s own image…not our bodies or our minds.
We are unlimited beings and when we start identifying ourselves with that perception, then and only then do our lives start to blossom by unleashing the power that dwells within us.
This week, I encourage you to start using that power to create the life and the world YOU want to live in.
Quote of the Week:
“Life is always flowing to you and through you, but for you to have conscious deliberate awareness of it is the ultimate in truly living.” Abraham-Hicks “The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent”
Creating Your World
There are many books on how to create our reality. The science behind it is covered in “What the Bleep Do We Know.” It continued with “The Secret” and the Abraham-Hicks material that has been published in the last five years or so comes closest to describing how creation happens…by vibration.
Everything is energy and everything vibrates a different frequencies. A happy thought vibrates at a much higher vibration than an angry one.
Some have even defined the frequency of different thoughts and states of beings. But we do not have to understand any of the science, the vibrations or the levels of frequency to apply this information.
All we have to do is be able to discern the subtle differences in our feelings.
A word of caution…this will require practice! While we all have innate memories of being able to create instantly on the plane where we reside between lives, the very reason that we came into this life to create is because it does take more focus here. When you can create anything you desire instantly, there is no satisfaction gained from your creations.
A similar analogy would be someone who has been wealthy all of their lives. If all you have ever known is abundance, how can you truly appreciate it? If you have only known fabulous health all of your life, how can you appreciate a vitally healthy body?
If on the other side, everyone is love and all of your “relationships” are loving and peaceful, how can you appreciate loving relationships?
Now contrast that with your own lives. Have you achieved the ideal? Have you created realities for each of these areas that feel joyful and fulfilling to you?
If not, consider then the possibility that this is the reason that you are here. Consider that the people who frustrate, disappoint and hurt you the most are your greatest teachers…for they show you where you have yet to create what you truly desire.
When you start to experience your life from the perspective that you are a Divinely powerful creative being, then you start to become aware (through practice) of what thoughts you think and how they feel to you.
When you find yourself thinking a thought that does not feel good, ask yourself, “Why am I thinking this?” “Who says THIS has to be MY reality?”
The answer to that is that no one can choose your reality for you but you. You can choose to think thoughts of self-punishment and fear or you can choose to think loving and peaceful thoughts about yourself and the interesting thing is that no one can possibly make that choice for you…but YOU.
No one can think your thoughts for you. So since no one can do that but you, then you have the unique power to practice thoughts that feel good.
Now it’s only fair to say that when you start practicing a thought that is the highest you can dream, it will feel uncomfortable at first. It feels that way because the vibration of that thought is SO different than what you’re used to feeling. It will feel so different that it may even feel like you are lying to yourself. If you feel that, consider that you have already been lying to yourself if you have told yourself anything that does not reflect who you truly are…a Divine being…God being expressed in human form.
This is a crossroads and one you will be at many times as you grow. Each time you come to this crossroads, you will have to decide if you are willing to believe the lie you have been telling yourself or if you are willing to accept the truth of who you are.
As one of my teachers asked me once, “how good can you stand it?”
The answer to that will directly impact how easily your life flows in a way that feels good to you.
Practice thoughts that feel good. Practice images that feel good when you imagine your life and most of all, practice FEELING a higher vibration. All you really have to do is intend to feel better and breathe that in.
Why would God make it more difficult than that…if you ARE God?
Exercise of the Week
Envision something you want, but do not yet have. Close your eyes and imagine yourself with it.
So for example, imagine yourself in a new car. See yourself having plenty of money to buy the car you WANT, not the car you’ll settle for. See yourself in that car. Hear the engine or if it’s an electric hybrid, marvel at how quiet it is. Smell that new car smell as you get into it. Feel the steering wheel and the gearshift in your hand. Hear your friends and family tell you how well this car fits you and that they’re happy that you got the car you wanted.
How does that feel in your heart?
Now open your eyes and look at the car you have now. Do you have that same feeling? If not, just notice what this feels like.
Now realize the difference between owning the car you want and the car you have right now has less to do with anything you are doing than it does with the vibration you are sending out into the world. When you vibrate, when you send out an energy that matches the experience of having the car you want, it has to come into your life.
This is true whether it’s a car, a relationship, your health, being treated with respect and love by others or anything else you can imagine.
What you are living today is a direct match to the vibration you have been sending out. If you want to experience something different, but have been wanting someone else to change for that to happen, you’re in denial of how your reality is created.
If YOU want your life to change, you have to CHANGE your life. You have to BE that change…by changing your vibration.
© Jeffrey L. Scholl 2009. All rights reserved.
www.learningtoflow.com
LTF Weekly Newsletter – August 15th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Evolution, Uncategorized
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
This week, we will explore an issue that is proving to be highly volatile in our country right now…healthcare and we will use this example for how to express our Divine spirituality in a way that makes us feel good.
What many of us have yet to truly face is that there may be solutions we have not yet considered. The Universe / God / Our Higher Self cannot give us these solutions if we have closed our hearts through fear and anger.
It is not our faults that this fear and anger is surfacing. It is necessary that it happen, but the vast majority of the population does not understand why it’s happening and how allowing it to do so is both healing and cathartic.
If we are to heal individually and collectively, we must face our inner fears and pain. If we are to cxreate our heaven on earth, we must let go of the very pain that blocks us from being able to connect to the Source of All That Is.
Once we do so, solutions to these “problems” flow through us and out into our world. When we heal individually, we are also healing our world and almost as if by osmosis…many people awaken at once to solutions that then seem almost obvious, but lay hidden now.
So in exploring this topic this week, I encourage you to allow your fears and anger to surface. Breathe into it. Allow yourself to truly feel it and let it go!
It’s time to come together as One and create the world we want to live in.
Quote of the Week:
“Your politics is your spirituality…expressed.” -Conversations with God – Neale Donald Walsch
This week’s article:
Your Spirituality…Expressed!
So in continuing our discussion on the application of spiritual knowledge, let’s look at some areas in which we can apply this knowledge. Use the information in this article and the exercise to determine in advance what you will create based on the energy you are sending out. We no longer have to wait until we’ve created something and see it reflected back to us to get an idea as to what will show up.
So let’s look at the health care situation. Ask yourself how you feel about the healthcare you have for you and your family. When you ask that question, how do you feel?
Now notice I am not asking, “What do you think about it?” We can all recall experiences and talk a lot about why we feel what we feel. But for right now, I just want you to focus on what you feel. When you think about healthcare for you, your family…now and in the future, what emotion comes up for you…anger, fear, worry, frustration, disappointment…or peace, security and safety?
This is the starting point. In order to create anything, you have to know how you feel right now. Because how you feel right now on any topic is the energy you are sending out. And since the Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like,” as long as we collectively continue to send out fear, worry and anger…we will continue to attract the same situations into our lives over and over again.
So note how you feel and write that down in your journal. Write it out so that it triggers a feeling for you. So it will not be effective to simply write, “I feel afraid.”
What will bring up those feelings is to write something like, “When I think of my current healthcare, I feel frustrated.” “When I feel frustrated, I feel that feeling in my chest.” “It feels like my chest tightens and is slightly painful.”
Now that kind of statement clearly identifies what you feel and focuses you on the feeling instead of on the trigger for the feeling. The trigger is healthcare and it is only a reflection of our individual and collective consciousness on this issue.
Whether the topic is healthcare, our relationships, our careers, if we are not aware that we are creating our reality, we perpetuate our current reality by blaming others. So in relationships if we have a recurring situation, we tend to think that the other person needs to change and if they change their behavior, then we will feel better. But all we are doing when we communicate that to the other person is trying to control and manipulate them to make us feel better.
If we are going to create a situation that will feel good, we have to feel good first, then create an image in our mind that matches that…and then focus on how wonderful that would feel. We use the Law of Attraction to practice that good feeling for a minimum of 17 seconds and up to 68 seconds at a time. If you set a timer, you would be surprised at how short of a time 68 seconds actually is to simply hold a vibration and an image about something in your mind.
But what we typically do is the opposite. We continue to play the undesired situation over and over in our mind which ensures that we relive that feeling again and again…which our mind tells us provides the justification for us to feel what we are feeling. And all of this is a lie. All of it is a denial.
As long as we blame the other person, we are denying our power and actually giving our power away to the other person. We are essentially saying to them, “I surrender my power to you and allow you to determine if I feel good or bad.”
This is a denial of who you are as a Divine Spiritual Being.
It is also unrealistic to expect that anyone…anyone else is going to know how YOU feel and act in ways that make YOU feel good all of the time. YOU are the only one who knows how YOU feel, so the responsibility to create something different has to be YOURS.
If we are to create what we desire in our relationships, in our careers or in our healthcare system, we must take responsibility for what we are creating.
One of the first things I teach my clients is that they can no longer blame anyone else for what is happening in their lives. Because if I allow them to do that, I am also denying who and what they are…and I will not do that. Many of my clients would tell you that how I coach could be more accurately called “a kick in the ass” than “spiritual life coaching.” 
I do not allow my clients to continue to b.s. themselves about what is happening in their lives and why. What is happening is because of the energy they are sending out…mostly unconsciously.
What my clients are experiencing, what you are experiencing in your personal lives and what we collectively are experiencing in our world and politics is not our fault. Taking responsibility for creating change does not mean that we have to find someone to blame. Actually what we must do to create change is find someone to forgive. We have to forgive others for creating out of a place of fear…and we can’t just throw stones at them since we are also creating fear from our own glass houses. All of us are creating some aspect of fear in our daily lives…unless we have awakened to the point where we are only creating experiences of love, peace and happiness…unless we are spiritual masters. .
I’m not there yet and I have yet to encounter someone who is. All of us are headed in that direction though and are at various levels of understanding and vibrational growth on that journey. Make no mistake though. ALL of us are on the journey to mastery. All of us are capable of getting there and many of us will get there in THIS LIFETIME. We will not get there individually as much as we will get there together. It is not a matter of who is destined to be there. We are all destined to be there. As Spiritual Beings, we were given the tools and free will to create what we want. We can choose to create heaven or hell on this earth. I know that I have created enough hell on this earth for myself and so now I am focused on creating heaven on earth.
If you want to start creating your heaven on earth, use the exercise this week to move in that direction. Use all of the spiritual knowledge you get from this and other sources. Often we tell ourselves that we don’t know enough to create what we want. Yet I’ve studied spiritual topics for most of my adult life and after all of this knowledge I’ve accumulated, the answer to all of my questions is Divinely simple.
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise of the Week
I am using the healthcare issue this week because it is something that is out there and almost everyone has an opinion on it. Since my goal with these messages is to get people to start applying their spiritual knowledge, this seemed to be as good of a topic as any.
Feel where you are right now in relation to the topic of healthcare. Is what you feel closer to Love…or Fear?
Realize that you may not be capable of creating an image that you can believe will happen that will reflect “Joy” or “perfection.” Perfection is an illusion. There is no such thing and there can be no such thing. Realize that we can create in one moment what we think is “perfect” and we will only be able to enjoy that feeling for just a short time before we will want more of that. So since we now want more, the situation we created wasn’t really “perfect” was it?
What we created was an improvement…not perfection.
So if we can accept that our intention is simply to create an improvement…not perfection, then we can more easily feel for what would be an improvement from what we feel now. So if we feel pessimistic right now, an improvement would be for us to feel optimistic.
If we feel frustrated, an improvement would be for us to feel relieved. Remember, to create what we want…we create the feeling first and then practice that feeling to have it reflected back to us in our reality.
What many of us try to do is control and manipulate others through fear or guilt to create what we want. This does not and will never create what we desire. So this means that if we are spending time blaming our government or insurance companies or doctors and communicating our frustrations to them, we cannot expect that the Universe will simply reflect back to us the opposite of what we are sending out.
So what would be an improved situation in your current healthcare situation? Obviously if you don’t have healthcare, to have it would be a relief to you. If you have it, but your premiums are so high that it has reduced the quality of living in other areas, having lower premiums would be a relief. If you have affordable premiums, but your deductible is so high that it’s cost prohibitive to use your insurance, then having a lower deductible to allow you to actually use your insurance would be a relief for you. If you are completely satisfied with your own healthcare, but feel pain when you see others who have none, then knowing others now have healthcare would be a relief to you.
From any perspective, we can all find a feeling of relief.
If we all simply focus and practice feeling relieved, we will be amazed at how this situation changes. We do not have to control and manipulate the outcome. We can surrender the outcome to God, to our Higher Self, to the Universe…to handle the details. As long as we focus on what we want that outcome to feel like, it must be reflected back to us.
This week, write out what that new situation looks like, sounds like and feels like. Then spend 68 seconds a day focusing on feeling relieved while imagining the situation(s) that are a reflection of this feeling.
Use this exercise for any situation that you want to change. If you find that you feel resistance when you try to visualize this, you may need assistance in clearing fears, pain or hurts before you can embrace a more joyful situation. If you need help, let us know. I can refer you to coaches and / or healers who can help you work through your roadblocks.
LTF Weekly Newsletter – July 4th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Empowerment, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Growth
“No one is better equipped to heal the pain inside of you than you are. In lighting up your own inner darkness, with love and compassion, you are setting up an example of lightwork that radiates outward to others and encourages them to light up themselves.”- Pamela Kribbe “The Jeshua Channelings: Christ Consciosness in a New Era”
What are You Creating?
As we have learned more about our perceptions, taking responsibility for others’ feelings and as a result taking responsibility for our own…we then can examine-what do “I” want?
Most of us are so deeply enmeshed with others that we have a hard time even fathoming what it is that WE really want. As children, we become enmeshed with our parents and some of us never learn to detach ourselves from that throughout our entire lives. Even after our parents or caretakers pass, we may ask ourselves what they would think if they knew we were doing this or that. We allow the perceptions and desires of others to influence what direction we take in life.
Once we become enmeshed with our parents, we tend to carry that pattern over to other areas of our lives. We become enmeshed with spouses, friends, co-workers, managers, neighbors, anyone and everyone that might have an opinion of who we are. We tell ourselves that we have to do or say certain things to appease others.
But we have another option. We can allow others to be responsible for their own creations. If we can pull ourselves back just a little bit and ask ourselves, “what do I WANT?”…then we can start to focus on creating what it is that we want to experience.
When we are enmeshed with others, we spend most of our time and energy focused on what they want and we spend precious little of that energy focused on ourselves. Consequently, we never achieve our desires in life because we are forfeiting our power.
We must have the courage to upset the apple cart and possibly disappoint someone else so that we can focus on what it is that we want to create. When we can focus our own energy on the projects that are important to us, we can achieve what we desire much faster. We are not helping others to become empowered if we are adapting our behaviors to appease them. If we are acting in ways that are contrary to what we really want, we are disempowering ourselves and others.
We are capable however of creating situations that works for everyone. If we create a situation in which someone else is complying with our desire, but doing so out of obligation rather than joy, we have not created the highest experience we are capable of. We must be willing to create solutions that work for everyone.
Quite often, we create solutions in our mind that may work for us, but not work for everyone involved. This is an ego-based solution. We want what we want and we don’t care if it works for others as long as we get what we want. This is a growth phase that most of us go through once we start giving ourselves permission to create our desires, but it is not a necessary step.
We can go directly from being enmeshed with others and complying with their desires…to creating experiences that match our intended experience and others. It is a subtlety in the emotion we project.
Going from being enmeshed with others to creating what it is that we want can feel good. It can feel empowering. But most likely, we will not stay satisfied for long because as we continue to grow, we find that we do care about what other people want too. We may stay stuck in our paradigm for awhile because we do not want to go back to adjusting our behavior to meet their needs. We may appear to be at a stalemate.
But when we give it to our God-self, the Universe, our angels, etc; we find that there are other options. We find that we can allow the Universe to create solutions that reflect happiness to everyone.
So that may beg the question, “So are you saying that I can create solutions that reflect happiness to others?”
Yes of course! In reality, we are all connected. The reason we do not typically create solutions that work for everyone is that we have not realized our connection to others and that this is even possible. We can create win-win solutions by allowing the Universe to create this for us. We simply have to determine how this feels to us and then practice that vibration.
Once I started detaching myself from others’, I was reluctant to create win-win solutions for others since I thought that I was somehow manipulating their experiences similar to how I had felt when I was enmeshed with my parents for example. But the primary difference was how my parents viewed me and the fact that more often than not, they did not really consider my feelings as part of what they wanted. It was something that was forced on me regardless of how I felt.
This is not a knock on them as they could not give what they did not have. They did not realize that I was a soul that came “through” them with my own agenda for my life in this world. They did not realize their true role as my earth guides. They lived in a paradigm that I was here because of them and that I “needed” to be controlled and taught their way.
The truth is that souls coming into this world need little instruction on right/wrong. They are born with their own emotional guidance system that determines that for them. The question that must be asked of these young beings isn’t if what they did was right or wrong by “our” standards. The question that will help them to grow more effectively is, “Did your creation match your intent? Do you feel how you intended to feel when you decided to do/say that?”
If it did not match it, then we help them to clarify what feeling they did intend to create and why.
All souls are constantly growing and evolving.
How different would your life be if you viewed yourself as an evolving soul? Would it be easier for you to look back at your past and forgive yourself for things you may have done or said? If you did not understand that the goal was to create experiences that matched your vibration, then how could you consciously create what you wanted?
Would it be easier to forgive others knowing that they are also constantly evolving and that everyone is truly doing their best? Does it help to know that most human beings have not allowed enough love to come through them from their Higher Self to create the type of experiences that would have felt good to you?
Many souls are not at the point where they have even realized that there are ways to live in society without power and control over others. Their fear prevents them from realizing other possibilities. We will discuss the different stages of growth more next week.
Where you were when you came into this world isn’t right or wrong, good or bad. It was just where your soul was when it came in. Everything you have created from the time you arrived was all part of that evolution…leading you up to the point where you could learn to create all of it from a conscious perspective instead of unconsciously reacting to whatever showed up.
Look out at your life. Ask yourself if what you are creating matches what YOU want or if you are living your life for others. Ask yourself if you are willing to give up the model of how you’ve been living and be open to other possibilities. The Universe is capable of providing solutions that we have not yet even imagined.
Are you ready for change?
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise
Think of a person that acts as if you are responsible for their feelings.
Realize that they do this because you are enmeshed with them in some way. One or both of you are not taking responsibility for your feelings / creations.
Also realize that as long as you are changing your behavior to comply with their demands, you are preventing both your own and their growth in this area.
Envision this person taking responsibility for their own feelings and their own creations. Imagine hearing them share how relieved they feel that they can just tap into the feeling they want within them and see it reflected to them…instead of trying to control and manipulate others to get a temporary feeling of satisfaction.
Notice how relieved you feel that you are no longer over-connected to this person. Feel how wonderful it feels to be free to only be responsible for your own feelings and creations…and how exciting it is to be with people who are also experiencing that same freedom!
LTF Weekly Newsletter – June 27th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Enlightenment, Law of Attraction, Physical Healing, Spiritual Growth, Vibrational Being
“When you have felt the silent, yet all-pervading joy of simply being with yourself, you will know that is is what you’ve been looking for all along.”- Pamela Kribbe “The Jeshua Channelings: Christ Consciousness in a New Era”
Where are We Going?
In learning how to heal myself and teaching others to do the same, I have come to understand that there is really nothing to heal. As long as we believe that there is something to heal, there will be. As long as we think we need to DO something in order to heal, there will ALWAYS be something else to do.
We heal fully and completely when we give up all of our struggle about what to do next and simply allow ourselves to truly BE who we are. When we give up, we relax.
This is the same way we achieve goals actually. As someone that has been called a “neurotic overachiever,” I was never satisfied with where I was. Unconsciously, I was always trying to prove that I was worthy of something…abundance, love, appreciation, etc. I was never at peace with where I was. My eyes were always to the future, hence my title of “where are we going?”
When I hear people talk today, they are always worried about where the world is going, what is happening and not realizing that it is our collective past fears that have created what we are experiencing today. If we want to create a different world, we must start accepting responsibility for all that we have created and THAT responsibility starts with each and every one of us.
So this is my “coming out of the closet” article…so to speak. I have been living in the closet of denial for most of my life. I have blamed everyone in my life for my life being the way it was. I blamed my parents, my teachers, my friends, my ex-wife, her family, my family, my co-workers, my managers, my community leaders, my government, other governments, my ancestors…all because I did not truly understand and embrace who I am.
Who I am is an immortal and constantly evolving soul. I did not come into this life as a blank slate as I once believed. I brought in a perception that had evolved to a certain point. I picked parents, soul mates, lovers and friends to be with in this lifetime in order for my soul to continue to evolve. In my other lifetimes, I only worked on a few karmic issues. But this lifetime, I chose to resolve ALL OF IT. So I chose the most difficult path I could in order to evolve quickly.
MANY of us that have had not only some tremendous challenges in this lifetime, but a LOT of them . Many of us made the same choice. We wanted to transform the negative energy we held in our energy patterns into positive, loving energy.
When we came into this life, we looked out at the world and through the perception we already had as a constantly evolving soul, we created NEW perceptions. The perceptions we formed early in life formed the basis of our belief systems. Now while we can certainly transform those beliefs, it is also possible to simply transcend them.
But that requires us to live from a heart consciousness instead of a “mind” consciousness. We have a consciousness in our heart…and when we start feeling for every experience there instead of our head, our lives will start to slow down and make more sense. We start to understand that our mind is not designed to be the mechanism that runs our lives. This is our heart’s job. Our mind’s job is to use the energy that comes from your heart to plan, to create, to write. Our body’s job is to take the plans and physically carry them out. It all starts with the heart though.
When we try to start from the mind first, we fail because the mind (without the loving, peaceful energy from the heart) looks for all the things that could go wrong. When we initially get our loving intention from the heart, we already know it will work out so we aren’t wasting energy worrying and fearing what might happen. We focus all of our energy on what we know will happen.
At this point where you are isn’t right or wrong. You are not “wrong” for being where you are. Where you are is just where you are. Once you accept this, you will not even consider what other people think about you…because it does not need to have any bearing on WHO you are being in this lifetime, what you intend to accomplish and what you want.
Realize that your desires to be more, have more, do more don’t come from your mind. They come from your soul! This is what the soul does. It is constantly expanding, constantly growing, constantly desiring for more, More, MORE! It wants to experience itself as JOY in every way possible and then it wants to expand THAT version of itself.
The problem is that we let the mind get in the way instead of just reconnecting with our heart for the source of our desire. When we are connected, the mind quiets. It starts to understand that raising the warning bells is not needed.
Once we transcend our own negative energy, we can actually help the world heal by transmuting others’ energy. As enough of us are able to do this, we are able to help the world heal.
This is the role of the Lightworker. This is the path many of us are on in this lifetime. This is the reason that our souls are pulling many of us forward.
It’s time to let go, to relax, to tune into our hearts and to finally just LOVE ourselves as we are…today…right now.
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise of the Week:
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Start at the top of your head and move down to your feet, breathing in every area of your body. Allow each area to relax.
There’s no need to think about it. Juat allow it. Allow yourself to relax.
Breathe into your heart area and notice any tightness or tension there. Notice if when you breathe into it, you feel tightness or tension anywhere else in your body. Realize that it is your connection to Love or your resistance to this connection that manifests lack of abundance, health, love, peace…in your life.
When you establish this connection through your heart to these aspects of your soul and you maintain it through meditation, this energy will flow freely into your life.
Any area of your life that is not working the way you desire it to be is simply cut off from your Higher Self. So be still, be present and breathe into your heart. Allow yourself to connect with Peace, Love, Joy, Happiness, Safety, Abundance, Excitement…whatever you want and just FEEL it.
All you have to do is breathe and feel it. Your world will start to reflect experiences to you to match this new vibration you are practicing.
Once this happens for awhile, you will realize that you have not been creating your world. You have simply spent your life reacting to what has shown up in response to your unconscious vibration.
Connect to your heart. Feel the Love that is waiting for you and allow it to flow!
Fifteen minutes a day is all it takes!
LTF Weekly Newsletter – June 21st, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Empowerment, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Growth, Vibrational Being
Quote:
“Only you can know how you feel about you.”- Abraham-Hick “Ask and It Is Given”
What Do YOU Want?
One of the most significant realizations I’ve had is how unconscious I was to believing I was responsible for others’ feelings. I’ve discovered through working with clients that this is more of a mass consciousness belief (rather than something specific to me) that has been passed down from generation to generation.
Our unconscious beliefs derived from having parents who never learned how to be responsible for their own feelings. They never learned that their feelings had merit, so they learned to minimize, deny, avoid and repress them…and then they taught their children to do that as well. Our parents simply didn’t know how to teach us how to feel our feelings, to understand what our feelings meant, how valuable they really are and how to USE them to create what we do want.
All of this is possible and if we can teach our children in early childhood how to do this. It doesn’t mean that they won’t face negative experiences in their lives. It means that they will know how to process those experiences to create what they want.
But in order to teach our children how to do that, we have to learn it ourselves. We have to practice new behaviors and new ways of thinking. Most importantly, we have to let go of the unconscious beliefs we have been living out our entire lives in regards to our feelings.
This week, let’s explore how this manifested in the first place and how to let it go.
So for example, as a child the message I heard over and over again was statements like, “I’m so disappointed in your grades.” or ”You embarrass me when you don’t act perfectly in public: or “I’m angry at you so you’re getting a spanking.”
My parents constantly told me over and over and over in hundreds of ways, that I was responsible for their feelings. When I didn’t behave in ways that made them feel good, they projected the anger, disappointments, frustrations, worry, etc out onto me. Their feelings really had to do with the disappointments, anger and pain they had repressed from their own childhood, pain that was being reflected to them in their relationships and how they did not know how to resolve with each other. Since they didn’t feel safe to express their feelings with each other, they projected them out onto me. I was safe for them in many ways because I didn’t have the power to strike back either physically or verbally. They were bigger than I was, so over time, I bought into their illusion. And in doing so, it created an identity in my personality that my teacher has called “a neurotic overachiever.”
In effect it manifested in a constant state of anxiety for me. Since I never knew when my parents were going to suddenly project their anger or pain out onto me, I learned to constantly watch them. I learned to notice subtle nuances in their body language or the tone of their voice and my “overachiever identity” immediately changed my behavior to ensure I wasn’t about to “get in trouble.” I made sure that even if I was already “being good” that I stepped it up some to avoid any wrath that might come my way. Mostly, I learned to avoid them as much as possible. I learned to be alone rather than spark confrontations.
The biggest problem that I faced was that my parents weren’t consistent. One thing might seem to make them happy one day and angry the next. My parents never understood that they were responsible for their own feelings. They, like many of us, thought that they could only feel good or bad based on what was showing up in their world. But this is not how the Universe works.
When any of us hold our vibrational set-point low by constantly focusing on what we do not like about our lives, we attract more of that. So when my parents “observed” undesired behavior from me, they were simply being triggered by a reflection of the negativity they already carried. As they focused on what they didn’t like in my behavior, they were actually attracting more of that. As they unconsciously carried repressed feelings of anger, frustration, inadequacy, hurt and powerlessness, they projected those feelings out onto me effectively telling me that “I” was the reason they felt bad. As I focused on what I didn’t like about their behavior, I started to attract more of that as well. They made me their “scapegoat” and because I believed them, two beliefs because part of my core foundation:
1. That there was something “wrong” with me because I made other people feel bad.
2. That I was responsible for how other people felt.
Looking back now, I know I have manifested this in every relationship, both personal and professional, in my life. If I encountered someone that had a lot of negativity already, my unconscious need to please created excessive pressure on me until I had enough that either I projected it back out onto them or I left the relationship.
In the past couple of years, I have become conscious of how it feels to me when I feel like I am responsible for someone else’s feelings. Overall, the feeling is of fear and powerlessness. This has also manifested in physical dis-eases occasionally over the past 20 years. Few things can make one feel more powerless than to feel like they have no control over how sick or well their body is.
So what I am practicing now is to allow others to be responsible for their own feelings. When someone expresses a feeling to me, I no longer ask, “What can I do to help? What do you want me to change?” For a long time I had made so many changes over the years that I lost myself in trying to be who someone needed me to be in that moment. Because of that, when someone did ask me what I wanted, I didn’t know.
I am now no longer willing to change in order to make someone else feel better, but determining what I want if I feel it may make someone else unhappy still weighs on me. I am practicing the feeling of being safe to want what I want. As a result, I am seeing more of what I do want coming to me without me having to ask.
What I am now willing to do for others though is to validate how they feel and help them understand where it comes from. I can even teach them how to release the energy that drives this recurring experience and how to practice a new vibration that will bring them what they want.
Make no mistake. This is not an easy shift. It is a complete paradigm shift to go from believing you need to constantly monitor your words and behavior for their effect on others and modify it to please others…to allowing others to be responsible for their own feelings. Being responsible for only your feelings can be a huge shift.
When we take responsibility for the feelings of others, we disempower ourselves and them. When we are ready to only be responsible for our own feelings, we are empowered to create our lives as we choose.
Ask yourself if you can make that shift though. How much difference would it make to not be responsible for the feelings of anyone else? Now is the time to change these belief systems and teach our children a different way to live. If children can learn to only be responsible for their own feelings and to create experiences that feel good to them, then they will feel more empowered in their lives…as will we.
Let us know if we can help you make that shift. Let us know if you are ready to learn how to let go of your emotional baggage and how to be empowered in your own life.
Exercise of the Week:
This week, ask yourself if you are holding anyone else responsible for your feelings? Do you tell stories about other people that have hurt you? Do you find your mind going over an event again and again in which someone did something that hurt you or possibly didn’t do something you wanted?
When you blame others, you disempower yourself. What that means is that you are essentially saying, “I don’t have the power to choose my own feelings. THAT person chooses them for me.”
And this isn’t true. You are a Divine spiritual being and the one gift you DO have (unless you consciously or unconsciously give it away) is the power to choose your own feelings.
And since the vibration of these feelings create your reality through the Law of Attraction, you create your reality through the feelings you choose to feel.
You will always face both positives and negatives in your life. The more you grow, the less negatives you feel if you choose to let them go.
When you feel angry, sad, embarrassed, frustrated, fearful, disappointed or worried about something this week, take a moment and validate yourself. Tell yourself that it’s normal for you to feel the way you’re feeling.
Tell yourself that it’s natural for you to feel it and then allow yourself to feel the physical sensation of that energy in your body. Breathe into it and allow it to release.
Know that it’s necessary for you to release that energy so that you do not continue to attract situations to mirror that to you.
When you can do this for yourself…when you no longer blame others for “making you feel” a certain way, you will feel empowered to choose how you want to feel. You will understand the purpose of the contrast that has been pre
You will feel empowered!
LTF Weekly Newsletter Feb. 22nd, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Law of Attraction, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Relationships
“Is Your Relationship on Autopilot?”
“Everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time, but unless we go into every room, every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person.”
– Indian Proverb
If we want our career to grow, we work at it…but quite often after we have been in a relationship for awhile, we go on autopilot. We think that having the relationships WAS the goal and that if it is not giving us what we want out of it, then we just have to make the best of it.
Most of us never had a model for how to reinvent our relationship over and over…how to keep it exciting and adventurous. Most of us left that behind in our courtship.
But if we don’t put any focus on it, it will grow stagnant.
Write down three ways you can enliven your relationship today…and then act on them!
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. ~ Mignon McLaughlin
“Magical Beliefs”
Magical beliefs are “positively charged negative beliefs.” This means that we have attached a feeling like happiness or joy to the fulfillment of our emotional dependency needs by someone else. We think thoughts like, “I’ll feel loved when I get married” or “I’ll marry a man who will take care of me.”When we don’t get our needs met in childhood, we create a fantasy of a person or situation that will fulfill all of our wants, needs and desires. And when our relationship does not match our inner fantasy, we blame the person or tell ourselves that we picked the wrong mate.
“Your mind uses magical beliefs to emotionally escape when your relationships trigger feelings that make you feel ignored, abandoned, frightened, abused or misunderstood. Magical beliefs make you feel as if your safety and security is dependent on another person. Magical beliefs create short-term imaginary gain for long-term real world pain.” – Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self
When I become conscious of my magical beliefs, I could easily understand where they came from and more alarmingly to me…see how they had manifested many times in various relationships. It was painful for me to realize how I had unconsciously created the same thing over and over again. I understood why my ego had not wanted to look at this before. Also in finally feeling not only the disappointment, but the embarrassment and shame that were anchored to these experiences, I was able to release this energy from my life. I had to forgive myself for all of it and give myself permission to let it go.
In doing so though, I became empowered to change my beliefs into what I wanted them to be.
The difference between whether your prince (or princess) has turned into a frog is a matter of perception. – Jeff Scholl
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved.
From LTF’s Feb. 6th, 2009 Newsletter
Posted by learning | Filed under Law of Attraction, Spiritual Growth
It’s Your Game!
All too often we unconsciously get stuck in life patterns that we have modeled from others. We take certain career paths, get into relationships, have recurring health issues and even accept limits on what we could Be, Do and Have in this life.
But what if God didn’t intend for us to have any of those limits? What if our parents, teachers and society only gave us what they thought were possible? What if they couldn’t teach us how to dream beyond the dreams they were able to achieve?
What if our bodies are designed to last almost indefinitely and yet we have accepted that our bodies are supposed to age? What if facts and evidence to support aging are the result of our beliefs…rather than our beliefs being the result of facts and evidence?
What if our beliefs about how much money we can have, how it can come, how our relationships can be…how we can live our lives are all based off of someone else’s limited thinking?
What if you could live your life by your own rules?
What would you change about your life?
Freedom to Change
Have you ever sat down to play a game with a child who didn’t know the rules for that game? Ask them how “they” think it should work instead of how it’s written. You may find that their way is more fun. It’s a great exercise to look at life differently.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” – Albert Einstein
From my January 23rd, 2009 LTF Newsletter
Posted by learning | Filed under Law of Attraction, Vibrational Being
I have an exercise that I teach all of my clients to use and one that I have been using for twenty years.It’s called a “See, Hear and Feel.” Anytime you want to create something new in your life and follow the guidance you receive.
Here are the steps:
1. Spend some time envisioning your new situation. Really get clear on what you want and why, then write that out. As an example, let’s say you want a new job. You write out I want a new job because I want new challenges and opportunities for more money. (Make sure you phrase your statement in a way that feels good to you. It won’t be as effective if you write something like, “I want a new job because I don’t like my manager and I’m not making enough money here.” That will send a different signal to the Universe and will not create what you seek.)
2. Write out a paragraph of what you see in your new situation. For example, if you see yourself working in a new place, then envision where you see yourself working, what type of position you see yourself working in, what your desk and office looks like, what the amounts are on your paycheck, etc.
3. Write out a paragraph of what you hear. So to continue our example, write about the positive feedback you hear from your manager or clients, hearing how much people enjoy working with you, hear what you say about your new role to others, etc.
4. Write out a paragraph of how you feel. Write how excited you feel in this new opportunity, how appreciated and grateful you feel, how safe you feel…anything that feels good.
5. Now read this every morning right after you wake up and every evening just before you go to bed. Another option is to record it at a time when you can infuse passion into your “new story” and listen to it at least these two times every day, if not more.
Remember, your inner world creates your outer world.
Create, Prosper and Enjoy!
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” - Mahatma Gandhi