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LTF Weekly Newsletter – August 22nd, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Spiritual Coaching, Spiritual Evolution, Spiritual Growth, Spiritual Life Coaching
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
I have been working with a coach again in the past couple of weeks and she has really been getting into some stuff I’ve carried for a long, long time. In last night’s session, the pain was so intense as one point that it was difficult to focus my consciousness on it and just let it be there. In finally feeling something I had repressed all of my life, I realized how that energy had manifested again and again in my life…and in feeling the intensity of that pain, I understood why I had avoided it for so long.
There is no way I would have faced that pain, no way that my mind would have allowed me to dig in that deep. It was only through the assistance of a very good coach that I felt safe enough to face it, to know that I would be guided through what to do and how to let it go.
I have been doing this off and on for years and have coached others through it and the one thing I’ve learned is that NO ONE can go through this alone. We all need help to face our innermost fears. Our ego rationalize that we are enlightened enough enough to do this alone, but the truth is that we can’t.
An analogy I learned is this. “Take one of your fingers and brush it lightly along the back of the hand of the opposite hand betwen the fingers and the wrist as lightly as you can. Notice how sensitive your sense of touch actually is. Realize that your skin protects your body much like your ego mind protects your psyche, but with one exception. Your ego mind is a thousand times more sensitive than your skin.”
Realize that getting close to some of these emotions is akin to reaching out with your hand to a white hot stove. No matter how strong your will, your hand will jerk away before you can get there.
To face what we need to face in order to peel away the layers of what keeps us from living our heaven on earth, we have to ask for and receive help.
Allow yourself to surrender to the help that your Angels and guides are leading you towards.
Quote of the Week:
“If you believe that there are aspects of yourself this sun should not shine its light upon, that there are places where it shouldn’t shine, that there are things it shouldn’t warm with its rays, then everyone and everything you meet around you will confirm these beliefs..” -Jeshua Channelings: The Healing Series by Pamela Kribbe
This week’s article:
“I Don’t NEED help!”
It is not an accident that you are reading these words right now. If you found the time to sit down and read this message, know that this is in response to a question you have been asking.
Many of us are in the process of awakening…or reawakening as it were. We are actually reincarnating in the bodies we are currently in…and in order to do that, we have to examine all of the areas of darkness within us. Many of these areas are sensitive…and our ego has been shielding these areas from our consciousness for most of our lives. Our ego protects us in this way.
But if we are to be reborn as the embodiment of who and what we are, we must face our deepest fears. Our fears cry out to us to be recognized, acknowledged, accepted and loved. They do this through the reflections in our lives. You see, our fears are constantly being projected out into our lives. We see our fears reflected to us in every area of our lives and now we are a point in history where those fears are being brought to the surface to be healed.
Last week, we looked at an example of how we are using the subject of healthcare as a way to feel the fear and pain we have within us. The topic isn’t the problem. The reactions of others isn’t the problem. The problem is how we feel about it. When we can face our deepest fears on this topic and let them go…only then can we allow Love into this area.
Have you ever heard that “no two things can occupy the same space at the same time?” This means that you cannot hold within you a vibration of fear AND a vibration of love on the same topic at the same time. Each of us have an emotional setpoint (as explained in “Ask and It is Given” by Abraham-Hicks) on every topic in our world. We are somewhere on the sliding emotional scale between utter hopelessness and unbridled joy. Where we are on that scale is determined by the thoughts we consciously or unconsciously choose. All of us were conditioned by our childhood environments and what we believe may closely match what our parents believed. This is not an accident. As children, we were vibrational sponges and whether we consciously chose to replicate our parents thoughts, we absorbed their anxieties and convictions. We release all that we become conscious of, but we can only heal that which we can see to change.
In order to heal that which lies beneath the surface of our conscious mind, we need help. There are many modalities which have evolved in the last decade to help us release our unconscious beliefs and validate the emotional burdens that we’ve carried for many lifetimes. That’s a key here. We have to recognize that we did not generate all of the energy that we carry in THIS lifetime. So much of what we think has happened to us in this lifetime has been little more than a reflection of the energy we brought in with us from previous lifetimes. We can use those reflections however to our advantage. Because with those reflections, we now have something to validate. We have a way to tap into those feelings and release them.
If we can look at our experiences in this lifetime as reflections, then it is easier to forgive many of those we feel have hurt us…since they were reflecting energy we already had.
In this lifetime, many of us brought in the energy from all of our previous lifetimes to heal and release. Only by healing and releasing ALL of it can we become the light vibrational beings we truly are. The vibrations of fear, anger and pain are “heavy” vibrations and they weigh us down. Our ego likes to tell us that we just need to release some of it so we can manifest what we desire. And while our journey certainly is a process of doing that, our desire before we arrived was to release all of it. We no longer want to hold the energy of the past. We no longer want to control and manipulate others. We no longer want to carry memories of pain, anger and fear…and allow these to influence how we live our lives.
We want to live our lives in peace, harmony and bliss…and somewhere within us, we know that is possible. We know that even as we learn to create through joy that it isn’t the end of creating. We will simply learn to create greater and greater levels of joy instead of creating more and more struggle in our lives.
But to do that, to dig that deep into our consciousness means that we will have to ask for help. It is not an accident that small armies of healers and counselors have been called to heal their own consciousness in order to be able to help others. We felt the pull of this within us years before the waves of people hearing that call now.
But even those of us who have felt that call get stuck from time to time. We find a modality that helps us heal part of us and we allow our ego to deceive us by telling us that we are now “enlightened” and because we are teachers, we no longer need help from others. So the big test to that is…look out at your life. Is your life working in every area the way you desire? If it isn’t, then your ego is hiding something from you…in an effort to protect you from feeling some deep level of pain. It is this pain that you must surface and heal.
Intuitively we know that we are powerful and our ego uses that inherent knowledge to rationalize why we don’t need help from others. Yet if we are to heal, we have to find new ways to get past the ego’s defenses. This is why despite the effectiveness of the coaching methods I use, I will frequently seek the services of someone in a completely different modality. At some point, I have to admit that I need help and that if I want my life to change, I have to change my approach.
The Universe appears to be ratcheting up the pressure. We are going to be seeing more changes in our world as the veil gets thinner and our deepest fears are surfacing. We cannot stop this process. We all chose to incarnate at this particular point in history to be a part of this transformation. Yet if we are to help others make this transition, we must complete the transition ourselves. We must seek help from others.
If you have areas of your life that aren’t working, it’s time to stop using the same approach you’ve been using. It’s time to take a great leap forward. That fear you feel when you think about that is simply your ego fearing its demise. It’s time to let your ego off the hook, to allow it to step down from its guard post and to allow guidance to spring forth from the joy that already resides within you.
Your mission this week…is to find it!
Namaste
Jeff
This Week’s Exercise:
I know I wrote kind of on this same topic a couple of weeks ago, but my guides are telling me that it is very important to stress this right now…to help inspire people to take the step they have been thinking about, the step they have been praying about and to take action on the answers they have received but not been completely willing to acknowledge.
So this week’s exercise is simple. Take that step. For whatever modality you have been using, do something completely different this week. If you have not received any ideas on that yet, pray about it and when that answer comes act on it.
I have received answers to these questions at times by spending time in nature…getting away from my daily thoughts, relaxing and opening my mind to new ideas.
But make no mistake, if you are to get past your ego’s defenses that are “protecting” you from what you’ve been hiding from for all of your life…you will need help to get there.
Explore different modalities. Go to a metaphysical fair and experience different healers. Getting past your ego’s defenses may require that you use the services of the person with whom you feel the most uncomfortable…the one who seems to push your buttons the most. Again this is your ego screaming out, “NOOOO!”
If you stay with the healers you feel safe with, it is quite likely that you feel safe because they are not getting into those sensitive areas.
The time to move forward is NOW.
The Difference between Therapy and Spiritual Life Coaching
Posted by learning | Filed under Emotional Healing, Self Realization, Spiritual Coaching, Spiritual Life Coaching
In having been to a couple of therapist on my own and in talking with many of my clients about their therapy, I thought it would be a good idea to clarify some of the primary difference between traditional psychological / psychiatric therapy and Spiritual Life Coaching.
So for one thing, traditional therapies like to diagnose a person and give them a label. Common psychological disorders include: ADHD, Anxiety, Addictions, Bipolar, Borderline Personality, Dissociative Identity, Depression, Eating Disorders, etc.
In Spiritual Life Coaching, we start out with the premise that every person is a Divine Spiritual Being. We know this to be true and our role is to help the client realize this for themselves.
Traditional therapy prescribes drugs to treat the various disorders.
In Spiritual Life Coaching, we know that the disorder itself is an illusion created by the mind. While we do not interfere with anyone under a doctor’s care and cannot/will not tell anyone to stop taking drugs if they are on them, the client themselves will eventually stop because they realize they feel much better without the drugs than with them. We will have to peel away the layers of emotional pain to get to that point though.
Traditional therapy gives clients ways to cope with their “disorder.”
We give our clients a way to permanently heal their pain and this creates permanent behavioral change in their lives.
Traditional therapy quite often goes on for years, sometimes decades.
With Spiritual Life Coaching, the average client experiences a 35% improvement in how they feel in 15 sessions. The average client completes their coaching in 30 sessions. Some clients opt to go beyond that to have help to work on some isolated issues, but the average client will heal 80% of their repressed emotional pain in 30 sessions…if they do the work.
Now that’s the kicker.
In traditional therapy, the onus is on the therapist to do all of the work. While there can be homework sometimes, typically the client just comes in every week and the therapist tells them what to do next, sometimes even guiding them to make life choices in their relationships.
As a Spiritual Life Coach, I never guide my clients to make life choices. But all of my clients must do the work if they are going to heal. I teach them how to master each step of the process and how to use all of the tools they are given so that they understand why things are happening and how to heal it long after our work together is completed.
In traditional therapy, the therapist themselves may have completed a degree, studied the disorders, therapeutic treatments and learned how to be a great counselor. But they also likely never healed their own emotional issues. Many therapists are attracted by the field unconsciously because they want to heal their own stuff.
But one cannot heal simply by studying healing. You have to do it. You cannot give away that which you don’t have.
As a Spiritual Life Coach, I had to go through my own course before I could learn to teach it to others. I healed the first 80% in my own coursework. Then I started teaching it to others and have been doing so for the past 4 years. I have healed so much of my remaining pain that I am able to live most of my time in the present moment now because I have very few negative emotional anchors to my past. I have given them up…healed them.
I teach this to others because I know what it like to carry so much pain, anger, disappointment, frustration, fear, embarrassment and shame around. I know how all of that energy attacks the body and creates dis-ease within it. I know how the repression of emotional energies impacts relationships, careers and one’s sense of self-worth / well-being.
Having healed most of my own pain, I am able to help others peel away their layers of emotional pain. I help them to realize themselves as the Spiritual Beings that they truly are and live their lives from that perspective.
I don’t just offer hope…I provide a way to heal permanently for anyone who has reached the point where they know they have to find a way to change and are willing to do whatever it takes to do that.
I am there as your guide every step of the way, leading you to healing, leading you home to your Self.
All you have to do is reach out your hand for help.
Namaste
Jeff