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LTF Weekly Newsletter – August 15th, 2009
Posted by learning | Filed under Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Evolution, Uncategorized
Greetings from Learning To Flow!
This week, we will explore an issue that is proving to be highly volatile in our country right now…healthcare and we will use this example for how to express our Divine spirituality in a way that makes us feel good.
What many of us have yet to truly face is that there may be solutions we have not yet considered. The Universe / God / Our Higher Self cannot give us these solutions if we have closed our hearts through fear and anger.
It is not our faults that this fear and anger is surfacing. It is necessary that it happen, but the vast majority of the population does not understand why it’s happening and how allowing it to do so is both healing and cathartic.
If we are to heal individually and collectively, we must face our inner fears and pain. If we are to cxreate our heaven on earth, we must let go of the very pain that blocks us from being able to connect to the Source of All That Is.
Once we do so, solutions to these “problems” flow through us and out into our world. When we heal individually, we are also healing our world and almost as if by osmosis…many people awaken at once to solutions that then seem almost obvious, but lay hidden now.
So in exploring this topic this week, I encourage you to allow your fears and anger to surface. Breathe into it. Allow yourself to truly feel it and let it go!
It’s time to come together as One and create the world we want to live in.
Quote of the Week:
“Your politics is your spirituality…expressed.” -Conversations with God – Neale Donald Walsch
This week’s article:
Your Spirituality…Expressed!
So in continuing our discussion on the application of spiritual knowledge, let’s look at some areas in which we can apply this knowledge. Use the information in this article and the exercise to determine in advance what you will create based on the energy you are sending out. We no longer have to wait until we’ve created something and see it reflected back to us to get an idea as to what will show up.
So let’s look at the health care situation. Ask yourself how you feel about the healthcare you have for you and your family. When you ask that question, how do you feel?
Now notice I am not asking, “What do you think about it?” We can all recall experiences and talk a lot about why we feel what we feel. But for right now, I just want you to focus on what you feel. When you think about healthcare for you, your family…now and in the future, what emotion comes up for you…anger, fear, worry, frustration, disappointment…or peace, security and safety?
This is the starting point. In order to create anything, you have to know how you feel right now. Because how you feel right now on any topic is the energy you are sending out. And since the Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like,” as long as we collectively continue to send out fear, worry and anger…we will continue to attract the same situations into our lives over and over again.
So note how you feel and write that down in your journal. Write it out so that it triggers a feeling for you. So it will not be effective to simply write, “I feel afraid.”
What will bring up those feelings is to write something like, “When I think of my current healthcare, I feel frustrated.” “When I feel frustrated, I feel that feeling in my chest.” “It feels like my chest tightens and is slightly painful.”
Now that kind of statement clearly identifies what you feel and focuses you on the feeling instead of on the trigger for the feeling. The trigger is healthcare and it is only a reflection of our individual and collective consciousness on this issue.
Whether the topic is healthcare, our relationships, our careers, if we are not aware that we are creating our reality, we perpetuate our current reality by blaming others. So in relationships if we have a recurring situation, we tend to think that the other person needs to change and if they change their behavior, then we will feel better. But all we are doing when we communicate that to the other person is trying to control and manipulate them to make us feel better.
If we are going to create a situation that will feel good, we have to feel good first, then create an image in our mind that matches that…and then focus on how wonderful that would feel. We use the Law of Attraction to practice that good feeling for a minimum of 17 seconds and up to 68 seconds at a time. If you set a timer, you would be surprised at how short of a time 68 seconds actually is to simply hold a vibration and an image about something in your mind.
But what we typically do is the opposite. We continue to play the undesired situation over and over in our mind which ensures that we relive that feeling again and again…which our mind tells us provides the justification for us to feel what we are feeling. And all of this is a lie. All of it is a denial.
As long as we blame the other person, we are denying our power and actually giving our power away to the other person. We are essentially saying to them, “I surrender my power to you and allow you to determine if I feel good or bad.”
This is a denial of who you are as a Divine Spiritual Being.
It is also unrealistic to expect that anyone…anyone else is going to know how YOU feel and act in ways that make YOU feel good all of the time. YOU are the only one who knows how YOU feel, so the responsibility to create something different has to be YOURS.
If we are to create what we desire in our relationships, in our careers or in our healthcare system, we must take responsibility for what we are creating.
One of the first things I teach my clients is that they can no longer blame anyone else for what is happening in their lives. Because if I allow them to do that, I am also denying who and what they are…and I will not do that. Many of my clients would tell you that how I coach could be more accurately called “a kick in the ass” than “spiritual life coaching.” 
I do not allow my clients to continue to b.s. themselves about what is happening in their lives and why. What is happening is because of the energy they are sending out…mostly unconsciously.
What my clients are experiencing, what you are experiencing in your personal lives and what we collectively are experiencing in our world and politics is not our fault. Taking responsibility for creating change does not mean that we have to find someone to blame. Actually what we must do to create change is find someone to forgive. We have to forgive others for creating out of a place of fear…and we can’t just throw stones at them since we are also creating fear from our own glass houses. All of us are creating some aspect of fear in our daily lives…unless we have awakened to the point where we are only creating experiences of love, peace and happiness…unless we are spiritual masters. .
I’m not there yet and I have yet to encounter someone who is. All of us are headed in that direction though and are at various levels of understanding and vibrational growth on that journey. Make no mistake though. ALL of us are on the journey to mastery. All of us are capable of getting there and many of us will get there in THIS LIFETIME. We will not get there individually as much as we will get there together. It is not a matter of who is destined to be there. We are all destined to be there. As Spiritual Beings, we were given the tools and free will to create what we want. We can choose to create heaven or hell on this earth. I know that I have created enough hell on this earth for myself and so now I am focused on creating heaven on earth.
If you want to start creating your heaven on earth, use the exercise this week to move in that direction. Use all of the spiritual knowledge you get from this and other sources. Often we tell ourselves that we don’t know enough to create what we want. Yet I’ve studied spiritual topics for most of my adult life and after all of this knowledge I’ve accumulated, the answer to all of my questions is Divinely simple.
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise of the Week
I am using the healthcare issue this week because it is something that is out there and almost everyone has an opinion on it. Since my goal with these messages is to get people to start applying their spiritual knowledge, this seemed to be as good of a topic as any.
Feel where you are right now in relation to the topic of healthcare. Is what you feel closer to Love…or Fear?
Realize that you may not be capable of creating an image that you can believe will happen that will reflect “Joy” or “perfection.” Perfection is an illusion. There is no such thing and there can be no such thing. Realize that we can create in one moment what we think is “perfect” and we will only be able to enjoy that feeling for just a short time before we will want more of that. So since we now want more, the situation we created wasn’t really “perfect” was it?
What we created was an improvement…not perfection.
So if we can accept that our intention is simply to create an improvement…not perfection, then we can more easily feel for what would be an improvement from what we feel now. So if we feel pessimistic right now, an improvement would be for us to feel optimistic.
If we feel frustrated, an improvement would be for us to feel relieved. Remember, to create what we want…we create the feeling first and then practice that feeling to have it reflected back to us in our reality.
What many of us try to do is control and manipulate others through fear or guilt to create what we want. This does not and will never create what we desire. So this means that if we are spending time blaming our government or insurance companies or doctors and communicating our frustrations to them, we cannot expect that the Universe will simply reflect back to us the opposite of what we are sending out.
So what would be an improved situation in your current healthcare situation? Obviously if you don’t have healthcare, to have it would be a relief to you. If you have it, but your premiums are so high that it has reduced the quality of living in other areas, having lower premiums would be a relief. If you have affordable premiums, but your deductible is so high that it’s cost prohibitive to use your insurance, then having a lower deductible to allow you to actually use your insurance would be a relief for you. If you are completely satisfied with your own healthcare, but feel pain when you see others who have none, then knowing others now have healthcare would be a relief to you.
From any perspective, we can all find a feeling of relief.
If we all simply focus and practice feeling relieved, we will be amazed at how this situation changes. We do not have to control and manipulate the outcome. We can surrender the outcome to God, to our Higher Self, to the Universe…to handle the details. As long as we focus on what we want that outcome to feel like, it must be reflected back to us.
This week, write out what that new situation looks like, sounds like and feels like. Then spend 68 seconds a day focusing on feeling relieved while imagining the situation(s) that are a reflection of this feeling.
Use this exercise for any situation that you want to change. If you find that you feel resistance when you try to visualize this, you may need assistance in clearing fears, pain or hurts before you can embrace a more joyful situation. If you need help, let us know. I can refer you to coaches and / or healers who can help you work through your roadblocks.
LTF Weekly Newsletter, August 8th, 2009
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Greetings from Learning To Flow!
My teacher taught me that no matter how much I studied spirituality and self-help topics, if I wanted my life to change, I had to apply that knowledge.
I have also learned that if I want my life to change in a positive way, sometimes it requires me to step completely outside my comfort zone and experience something I never have.
I once took a skydiving course to do just that. I kept falling asleep in class because I had been out partying the night before and my friend had to wake me up at one point because they were talking about the emergency chute. I’ll never forget standing out on the strut of that plane waiting for the jumpmaster to yell, “Go!” I’ll also never forget the ride down and how I felt for three days afterwards. It changed my life and the way I viewed myself.
As did Navy boot camp and a variety of other experiences.
But to do any of those things, I had to be willing to do something different…to take a huge step forward.
It works the same in our spiritual lives. If we are to change our perspective of ourselves and the world, we have to be willing to step outside our comfort zones.
What are you willing to do differently?
Quote of the Week:
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” -Albert Einstein
This Week’s article:
Moving Forward
Do you ever feel stuck in some area of your life? I have found that in order for me to feel happy and alive in my life, I have to be constantly moving forward in my growth. If I stay anywhere too long, I start to get restless. That doesn’t mean I can’t stay in the same relationship or the same house. It means that I have to keep things active and growing. If I stay at one vibration for very long, life starts to get boring. Having realized that I can live my life any way I choose, I want my life to be as exciting as possible!
One area that I had been working on for awhile is my health. I used to be very fit and healthy and in the past few years, had developed a mental image of myself that I was overweight. While I did all the work on my own that I could think of, I knew that if I was still continuing to experience the same results that there was something there that I couldn’t see. I had an unconscious energy block.
So last week, I did something completely different. I went to an acupuncturist and the day after that first session, suddenly I had a burning desire to start exercising more. I already had a gym membership, but had not been going.
Now it wasn’t simply that I went to the gym for the first time in awhile that was a noticeable change. It was the intensity with which I applied myself. I was able to push myself harder than I ever had…and it felt wonderful. I had tried working out before and had not been able to find that level of intensity. I am also visualizing my body as I work out and finding it easy to resist foods that appealed to me just a few weeks ago.
Now I have been consistently growing for many years. I have dabbled and experimented with many different modalities, diets, exercise regimes, etc. I found that I could be working with a particular healer or coach for awhile and then I would get to a point where I felt ready to move on. When my clients get to that point, I know my work is done.
My question to each of you is:
Where in your life do you feel stuck? Is it your relationships, your career, your level of abundance…where?
After you come up with an answer for that, ask yourself, what you’re doing to change it?
There is no ONE right way for everyone. There is no one diet that will work for us all. We each have to experiment and find what works for us…what feels right for our body. We have to sample with various healers and coaches until we find something with whom we feel comfortable.
We have to give ourselves permission to switch jobs and careers when we feel a desire to do something different. We don’t have to stay in a relationship, a career or even a city simply because it’s what others want for us. We can give ourselves permission to grow and live an exciting adventurous life.
Only we know when we start to feel bored, restless or stuck. Only we know when something feels right for us and only we know when it feels like time to move forward.
When things stop working, we feel it and we know it’s time to make a change.
Namaste
Jeff
Exercise of the Week
What area of your life do you feel stuck in?
Write it down in your journal.
Then consider that whatever you are experiencing is a reflection of the vibration you are sending out. Perhaps you feel stuck in a relationship.
But are you focusing on what you do not like about the relationship and yet hoping for something to change?
Do you feel stuck in an unsatisfying career? If so, what are you doing to pursue what could be your dream job?
Each of us are gifted with some particular talent that we can share with the world in a unique way. What are you doing to explore this talent?
Do you know what it is?
For whatever answer you seek, you can pray about it and seek answers that way. But when those answers start to arrive, whether they come in the form of inspiration, something you hear someone else say or read, if you are to live your dreams…you must take action!
So once again, what are you going to do?
It matters not what action you take…only that you are moving forward.
It can be something as simple as going to get a massage if you’ve never had one. You can go visit a Theta Healer, a Galactic Healer, a shaman. You can have your Tarot cards read or have your own personal numerology or astrology chart done.
You can take a new exercise class, visit a new city.
This week do something different! Live your life with joy, excitement and adventure!
Live your life in a way that actually makes you feel alive!
LTF Weekly Newsletter – June 13th, 2009
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Perceptions
“Our politics, relationships, sexuality, work ethic, etc is our spirituality expressed…and we express it based on how we perceive it.”- what I learned from Conversations with God
We start forming perceptions from the time we take our first breath. Our perceptions of our parents grow over time. Psychologists estimate that our personality is formed by the age of five. But as I’ve learned in my own journey and teaching others how to change their unconscious beliefs, the vast majority of that personality is based on how safe and loved we feel. We derive that feeling based mostly on our perception of our parents and/or caretakers.
Now first of all, it’s very important to understand that “perception” is not reality. In reality, each and every one of us living on this earth is a spiritual being having a human experience. If we all were consciously aware of our own Divinity and that of others, our world would be very different.
Wayne Dyer said that “our relationships with someone else isn’t in them…it’s in our mind.” So if we understand that everyone including us is “God in drag” and we accept that the difference between seeing others as that and how we do see them is our perception of them, then if we want to change our relationship with someone, we can start by changing our perception of them.
The way most of us have been programmed to think, we tend to focus on what we don’t like about someone far more than on what we like about them. We usually only focus on what we like about someone when they are doing or saying something that makes us feel good. But as we learn to master our thoughts and feelings, we learn that no matter what someone does or says, if we hold fast to the experience of them as a spiritual being, we can feel good regardless. They may not be conscious of it, but we can perceive them the way we choose.
This also holds true for how we perceive ourselves. We look back on our past, at what we have experienced and tend to believe that this is who we are. It is NOT who we are. It is what we have experienced based on our conscious or unconscious choices…which was based on what we perceived we were capable of being, doing or having.
We perceive that others respond to us based on who we are and this is also incorrect.
We are all Divine spiritual beings who are simply having a human experience that we are consciously / unconsciously creating. Another way to consider it is that we are experiencing the Divinity to the extent that we are allowing it. If the perception we have of ourselves tells us that we don’t deserve to have what we want, that we aren’t good enough, that we must be perfect to receive what we want…then we will not open to the energy that God is constantly sending us.
This is what I mean when I say that I’m “learning to flow.” I mean that I am letting go of my perceptions of myself and others to allow God’s energy to flow freely into my life creating my desired experiences.
What perceptions are you holding onto that prevent you from opening your connection to your spiritual self?
You have no limits other than those you create in your mind. Learn to let go of your negative perceptions and practice allowing all of the blessings God has waiting for you to simply flow through you.
God does all of the heavy lifting. You simply have to be willing to change and grow.
Namaste
Jeff
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – June 7th, 2009
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Peeling Away False Identities
“Feelings are the language of the soul”- Conversations with God
I changed the way I coach people this year after starting to do a lot of face-to-face coaching with people in shorter sessions. It helped me to become a better coach because rather than having 20 or 30 sessions to peel away the emotional layers, I had to learn how to help someone make a small leap in just one or two sessions.
This also caused me to consider how to more effectively help someone in that kind of timeframe. I prayed about this and one day in a session, my guides gave me a new way to do this and it has helped me to see my own life differently as well.
I learned many years ago that our human identity is comprised of many roles or sub-identities. So for example, we have identities for being a son or a daughter, a husband, wife or partner, a parent, etc. We also have identities for how we move about in our world. We have an identity for driving the car, working in the yard, cleaning the house, an identity as a sexual being, etc. Within each of these identities are further subdivisions. So for example, we may have an identity as a son, but play out that role differently with our father than we do our mother or a stepparent.
So consider each of these identities like an onion. Each layer represents a belief that is anchored in place by an emotion. When we came into this world, we took on many other people’s ideas about some of these areas and through the filter of our personality (which was affected by our astrological, birth order, etc), we unconsciously developed other aspects of the identity.
We have had millions of experiences in our lifetimes, but it is only the experiences in which we felt a strong enough positive or negative charge that started the formation of a belief. Once we had that experience our mind automatically started creating an identity around our idea of that while layering more and more emotions around it until we “knew” who we were in that role. For some areas, we may have one or two layers that separate us from our ideal situation and in others, we may have dozens.
All of this happened on an unconscious level and if we are to create what we want to experience in this life (which we certainly have the power to do as unlimited spiritual beings), then one way to do this is to consciously choose to change our identity for that part of our life.
So for example, I may be very comfortable with some of my family relationships and not as comfortable in others. Even if I am somewhat satisfied in some, my soul demands that I grow and if I try simply to maintain where I am in an identity, I will eventually feel dissatisfied because I am not growing in that role. My feelings tell me when it’s time to grow in an area.
My soul does not demand that I do it all at once. After all, that’s what my whole journey is about…learning over time to practice being and expressing unconditional Love with myself and others. And it may take many lifetimes to do that or I may accomplish it in this lifetime. The latter is my personal target.
I know now how to feel and release my negative feelings that cause me to have the same experiences again and again in any given identity. I also know how to practice new thoughts and feelings that help me to develop a new way of living out that identity.
I can much more easily change me, my beliefs and how I feel…than to try to change the world to operate in ways that make me feel good.
I have found that by doing so, the Law of Attraction that is always working starts to work for me and automatically reflect my new identities.
If you’re interested in learning how to do this, let us know. We can provide you a tool and teach you how to use it for any situation or identity in your life.
Namaste
Jeff
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – May 31st, 2009
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What are You Waiting For?
“The journey is the goal of your life.”- Eckhart Tolle
All of us have had goals in life and achieved them. It started early in life as toddlers when we simply decided one day to stand up. Then we chose to walk. We had encouragement from our caretakers, but WE are the ones who decided when to actually do it.
Later in life, we decided where to go to college or even if to go. We decided whom to marry or not to marry. We decided where we wanted to work, what we wanted to do and where we wanted to live. We may often tell ourselves that life just kind of happened to us, but that denies who and what we are.
We are spiritual beings who are co-creating our life with God. We just have forgotten that we are actually doing this all of the time because there is a time lag between what we want and when it actually happens. But make no mistake; we are creating it all through our decisions and our focus.
Often we arrive at what we “think” is the achievement of our goal and then we stop creating…and just react to whatever happens. We create a job, a relationship, and an income and once we do that…we forget that we can continue to create what we want. We forget that we have to practice new feelings of having what we want in order for it to show up in our lives.
If we get lost in the illusion of it all, we blame others for how they show up in our reality. We forget that they are simply reflecting the vibrations we are unconsciously practicing. Our minds go on tangents of justifying and rationalizing all that we may think and feel about what someone has done or said. We may blame our managers or companies that they are holding us back from making the money we desire. We forget that we can change it by practicing the feeling of what we do want to experience.
We must realize that at our core, we are beings who desire continuous change and growth. So if we stop practicing new vibrations, we will eventually become dissatisfied no matter how wonderful or beautiful a partner we have. We will feel unfulfilled no matter how much money we make or how many friends we have. Our inner being doesn’t just ask us to grow. It demands it.
How do you want your life to change and what does that feel like? Are you practicing the feeling of that on a regular basis or are you simply hoping it will show up, but telling yourself that it probably won’t and you just have to live with it?
You have the power to create your life as you want it to be!
What are you waiting for?
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – May 9th, 2009
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Learning to Love Your Self
“All of life is a practice of learning to love the Self.” – Jeffrey L. Scholl
Do you love yourself? Really? How much?
The way to tell how much you love yourself is by looking out at your life today. Examine each area…your level of abundance, your career, your relationships, your health…anything and everything in your life is a reflection to you of how much you love yourself.
If you love yourself, you will let go of what other people want for you and only focus on what YOU want for you. Other people’s intentions are usually well intended, but most often our parents and teachers wanted things for us so that THEY could feel good. Perhaps our parents wanted us to have a certain career so that they could tell others that their son or daughter was a doctor, a lawyer or an engineer…when what we wanted was to be an actor, a writer or an artist. Perhaps we wanted to be a forest ranger because we loved being out in nature. If we love ourselves, then we follow our own inner guidance and we let go of what others want for us. If others loved us as they as they say that they do, then all they would want for us is to be happy.
If you love yourself, you will practice boundaries. You will only spend time around people that you feel good being with and you will protect your boundaries by forgiving people that have hurt you in the past. Forgiveness is a “self-protection mechanism” and it releases the emotional energy that continues to attract the same situations into your life again and again.
If you love yourself, you will learn to feel your feelings so that you CAN feel who you feel good being with. You will learn when you really learn to feel your feelings that you CAN feel what foods are good for you and which substances do not serve you. You won’t have to wait until your body develops problems. Our body is constantly sending us signals. Our pharmaceutical companies teach us over and over that these signals are a mistake and if we will buy their product, they will numb out those signals…although there may be some side effects. If you love yourself, you will listen to your body’s signals and understand that they are important messages sent to you to tell you what not to eat and what toxic energies you need to let go of.
If you love yourself, you will learn to meditate…to allow God’s energy to flow through you and out into your life. Meditation quiets the mind’s incessant chatter and allows us to experience peace. It allows us to focus and live mindfully and purposefully. Meditation allows us the opportunity to RECEIVE all that we have been asking for.
If you love yourself, you will tell yourself that…A LOT. You will learn to practice loving your self. You will practice talking to yourself in loving ways. You will forgive yourself for your less than perfect behavior and let go of other people’s perceptions of you that you may have believed at some point. You are a perfect Divine Being, who simply has not practiced loving yourself enough to be living it.
If you want to live it, practice it every day. Before long, loving yourself will be your life.
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – May 3rd, 2009
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Letting Go of Need
“Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life.” -Christiane Northrup
What is it that you want to create in your life? How often do you think about not having it? How does not having it impact your life?
Whenever we create a desire to create something, we do so out of a lack of it in our lives. It is normal for us to focus on the lack of it in our lives and yet most of us never move beyond that point of creation.
If we want to create a loving relationship with our spouse, or a family member or a friend…our minds tends to focus on what we are experiencing that we do not want. If we have never received what we desire, we may quite naturally feel a need for it within us. When we feel a need for it, we tend to do and say things that drives the very people that we want closer away from us. If we are in denial that we are creating our lives, then we tend to blame others for not responding the way we prefer.
In psychological terms, this is called projectional transference. We are projecting our unmet emotional dependency needs out onto others. If we are to attract what we desire, we must learn to meet those needs from within us.
So for example, if we desire acceptance from others…we must practice accepting ourselves…and let go of whatever images, beliefs and feelings we have attached to rejection. If we desire intimacy, we must learn to be intimate with ourselves and heal any ideas, images or beliefs about our sexual beingness. If we desire freedom, we must let go of the restrictions that have been repeatedly programmed into our minds, while embracing the feeling of freedom within us.
For whatever we desire, we are either attracting it to us or repelling it from us with our thoughts and images that we have stored in our mind. Much of what we have…we learned from someone else. Very little of it do we create on our own until we start to learn to do it consciously.
For everything that you want to create in your life, find something similar that you can appreciate. If you do not have the relationship you desire with your spouse, find things about him/her that you DO appreciate and focus on that. Feel appreciative for the relationships you have that are working. It is the feeling of appreciation that draws what you want to you. It is not necessary to focus specifically on what it is that you want…mainly because when we do that it is so difficult to focus on the feelings of having what we want while living in the present experience of what we do not want. Instead shift your focus away from what isn’t working and focus on the things that are.
The more you vibrate the energy of appreciation out into the world, the more things you will notice to appreciate. When those things happen, allow yourself to just feel appreciation for them. Notice that the mind is suspicious sometimes and wants to doubt what is happening, looks for strings, is worried about when it will stop. Notice the mind when it does this and just turn away from these thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the moment. Feel appreciation for what IS happening and you will attract more of that.
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – April 26th, 2009
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A Paradigm Shift
“Any subject is really two subjects…what you want and the lack of what you want.” – Abraham-Hicks
I ask people every day what they want. This seems like such a deceptively simple question and yet it stumps everyone. I get answers like:
- “Well, I’ll tell you what I don’t want.”
- “I’ll tell you what I would settle for…”
- “I know what I want, but I also think it’s impossible.”
Sometimes people just sit there looking very uncomfortable because they want so desperately to tell me what they want but they are afraid that I will ridicule them or tell them all the reasons they can’t have it just as everyone in their lives always have. Sometimes I get a long story about all the times they did want something and they didn’t get it.
I tell a story to my clients in our early coaching sessions to explain to them what a “paradigm shift” is. I ask them if they’ve ever seen elephants at a circus with a little rope around one of their feet tied to a stake in the ground. The elephant sometime sways back and forth but even though they could easily pull out the stake and run away, they do not. Why?
They do not because as babies, they were tied to a stake in the ground, but what was around their foot wasn’t a rope. It was a metal spiked ring and every time they pulled to move around, those spikes would dig into their flesh. They learned over time not to pull on the rope or they would experience pain.
As children, we learn over time that we cannot have what we want. That isn’t our fault because we were raised by people who didn’t believe they could have what they wanted, so they taught us to “face reality.” They taught us that money only comes to us if we work hard, that “money doesn’t grow on trees,” that we can’t do what we want for a living…we have to get a profession where we will be safe and secure…and a lot of other beliefs that have been passed down from generation to generation. All of these beliefs are like that chain around our legs. Early on, we feel our disappointment living with people who are trapped in their paradigms. We feel so much pain that after awhile, we don’t want to feel that any more so we buy into their paradigms. Doing so isn’t what we want, but it is less painful than asking for what we want from people who don’t believe it’s even possible.
When we came into this world, we did so with the knowledge that we were god-like beings, who could create anything we could imagine and believe. If we are to create the world we want to live in, we must learn to let go of the paradigms that don’t work for us and shift them to ones that create the world of our dreams.
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – April 5th, 2009
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We Are the Creators of Our World
“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to one another.” – Mother Theresa
I am seeing more anger being expressed at what many perceive to be problems in our country and in their own lives. They blame the government, business leaders, their spouses, partners, friends and even family for what is essentially their own fear being reflected back to them.
For far too long, we have used actions motivated by anger, frustration and fear to effect change in the world. What we have not recognized is that these actions do not work. They are short term fixes for a long term problem.
The long term problem is that we have been separated from God.
For example, for thousands of years we have used the tool of war to try to create peace. But we have yet to achieve lasting peace. If tools of war could create peace, we would most certainly have created peace when we created tools of mass destruction.
We create what we focus on, so if we focus on why we need war, why we needs tools of war, we simply re-create the need for war over and over again.
If we want to create peace, we must focus on peace. In order to focus on peace, we must learn how to feel safe.
The feeling of safety cannot come from outside of us. It must come from inside of us. We must learn to heal what causes us to feel insecure. When enough of us heal that, we will no longer feel the need to defend ourselves.
When we see or hear things in the news that make use feel angry, it is triggering the anger and/or fear that already resides within us. When we heal that, we perceive the world differently. We start to understand that the world is the way it is because of all of the emotional turmoil we collectively carry with us.
Many of us feel that we do not need to heal because we are not sick enough to be in a hospital, or not dysfunctional enough to be on drugs or suffering from an addiction. And yet almost everyone is suffering in one way or another. We are afraid to ask for help, worried that we will be rejected or that we cannot be healed.
Yet we look out into our world and see acts of greed, which is a repressed fear of not having enough. We witness acts of control and manipulation, which is commonly a repressed fear of not believing we deserve to have what we want. We see acts of violence which is an outward projection of all of the repressed fear/anger/rage one feels inside.
All of us have this dis-ease to some degree. If we are to heal our country, our world and ourselves, we must heal these fears, pains and shames within ourselves.
It is easier than we think. The change starts with us as individuals.
When we heal our past, we are able to BE in the moment. We are able to BE happy, FEEL safe and BE at peace.
For we are the creators of our world.
Expand Your Light!
Close your eyes and imagine your body as a dark vessel. Find the light within you and notice how large it is.
What color(s) is it?
Breathe into your light and notice it growing larger. How large can you make it?
What do you feel as it grows within you?
Now use your awareness to find the outer reaches of your aura.
How far out from your body do you feel your aura? An inch? Six inches? Two feet? How far can you feel it.
Realize that your aura is much like the glow from a candle in a dark room.
Take a deep breath and relax. Focus your attention on your breath…how it feels when you inhale and when you exhale.
Notice what tensions and tightness you feel as you breathe. Keep your attention focused on the peacefulness and calm as you follow the journey of your breath in…and out.
As you begin to notice tensions rising to the surface, listen to what your ego mind is saying about them. Just observe what the mind says. Keep your identification though on the flame…on your breath. Realize that the emotions coming up right now, the fear, anger, frustrations and hurt…are not you. Keep breathing and just let them go.
Use your breath and your awareness to increase and decrease the size of the flame within you. Play with different colors and notice if you feel more comfortable with certain colors than others. Notice which colors make you feel more powerful.
Notice what you feel and where you feel it.
When you feel complete, open your eyes and journal about what you experienced.
Close your eyes and imagine your body as a dark vessel. Find the light within you and notice how large it is.
What color(s) is it?
Breathe into your light and notice it growing larger. How large can you make it?
What do you feel as it grows within you?
Now use your awareness to find the outer reaches of your aura.
How far out from your body do you feel your aura? An inch? Six inches? Two feet? How far can you feel it.
Realize that your aura is much like the glow from a candle in a dark room.
Take a deep breath and relax. Focus your attention on your breath…how it feels when you inhale and when you exhale.
Notice what tensions and tightness you feel as you breathe. Keep your attention focused on the peacefulness and calm as you follow the journey of your breath in…and out.
As you begin to notice tensions rising to the surface, listen to what your ego mind is saying about them. Just observe what the mind says. Keep your identification though on the flame…on your breath. Realize that the emotions coming up right now, the fear, anger, frustrations and hurt…are not you. Keep breathing and just let them go.
Use your breath and your awareness to increase and decrease the size of the flame within you. Play with different colors and notice if you feel more comfortable with certain colors than others. Notice which colors make you feel more powerful.
Notice what you feel and where you feel it.
When you feel complete, open your eyes and journal about what you experienced.
© 2009 Jeffrey L. Scholl. All rights reserved
LTF Weekly Newsletter – March 30th, 2009
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What You Can Expect
“Know that if you’ve begun to emotionalize your spiritual lessons, you should be feeling sad and scared; sad because your old ego defenses no longer work and scared because your old belief systems are in a state of flux and your new Self-Mastery beliefs haven’t solidified yet.” – Hu Dalconzo paraphrased
Quite often we have this image in our heads that our lives will be all peaceful and happy when we start down a spiritual path.
Actually in the beginning, exactly the opposite happens. When we truly start doing the work to let go of our repressed emotional toxic energy, our lives get worse before they get better.
Most people quit when this happens. Many people suddenly find that they’re too busy to do the work. They point to many legitimate reasons like their jobs get busy, their children need them, they need to spend more time doing this or that, they just don’t have time, but the truth is that their ego is so freaked out by the intensity of the feelings that are coming up that it unconsciously creates reasons why they can’t continue.
This is one of the reasons why it’s good to work with a coach who has been through that process and also the real reason that sessions have to be paid in advance. If I had not paid for my sessions in advance, I would not have shown up to many of them because I thought my coach was going to be mad that I didn’t get all of the work done…or disappointed that I felt like my life was falling apart. Instead…my coach helped me to let go of the pain that was surfacing and taught me how to distinguish what I was feeling from what was really happening.
I learned that what I was feeling, the intense feelings were the years of anger, frustration, disappointment, fear, sadness, embarrassment and shame that I had buried within me. Things seemed to be getting worse because these emotions were coming to the surface. But the reason they were coming up was so that I could feel and release them. Once I understood that the energy needed to come out the way it went in, I allowed myself to just feel my feelings, breathe into them and release them.
So if it went in as anger, it came out that way. I had to allow myself to feel angry, to really feel it, not just think about why I was angry.
Sometimes this process can make someone feel as if they’re losing their mind…and they are. That’s the point…to lose identification with the mind.
In order to know ourselves as spiritual beings, we must identify with that part of ourselves experientially…not just conceptually.
And we have to peel away the layers of programming and emotional pain that separates us feeling that Divinity within us.